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You just never know
Recently I was in a church study group discussing a book we were all reading. We came to a chapter entitled “Coming Out Of The Closet”. Now, this chapter had nothing to do with any LGBT issue, nor did the rest of the book. In fact, the crowd I was in really had had little, if any, exposure to anything LGBT besides me [especially the ‘T’ part]. Nevertheless, when the chapter was introduced I let out an involuntary snicker when the title was read aloud. There was an uneasy calm in the room, but the moderator, who is pretty cool, said, “Kristy, what was your impression of this chapter.”
“What makes you think I know anything about coming out of a closet?” I replied.
There was now an even more unsettling air lingering.
“Ah, come on” I blurted, “that had to be just a little bit funny!”
“Oh….” said the woman seated next to me, “is it ok to laugh at that?”
“Of course,” I replied, “hey, if I can’t laugh at myself, how can I expect you to laugh at me?”
The room erupted in laughter. The ice was broken.
At the moderator’s request, and with the group’s insistence, the rest of our time was spent by me telling them the story of my transition, and a true meaning of “coming out of the closet”.
Since that night, I have been told, and retold, how much those people had wanted to know my story, and their appreciation of the courage it took.
I have also since learned that I have been selected to be installed as an Elder in the Presbyterian Church.
You just never know.
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Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on October 9, 2012 at 7:26pm -
Elder? Why must we be elders? Doesn't any church ordained neophytes?
Congratulations Elder Dantes. What next, a bishopric?
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Comment by HELEN BRADY on October 9, 2012 at 7:31pm -
Maybe there is hope for religion after all! Congratulations!
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Comment by HELEN BRADY on October 9, 2012 at 7:33pm
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Isn't like the church council in the Lutheran church, and some others?
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Comment by Erin Detty on October 9, 2012 at 8:21pm -
I'm glad you are having a good experience, sharing something I know has to be hard for most, if not all the members of your church to understand let alone except. They must be very open minded:)
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Comment by Jenn on October 10, 2012 at 1:05am -
Kristy, what a wonderful teachable moment and you handled it beautifully. And, congratulations on being named an Elder of your church. Hugs girlfriend, Jennifer
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Comment by Dianne Faber on October 10, 2012 at 2:54am -
Thank you for sharing this with us.
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Comment by Caroline Grace on October 10, 2012 at 5:22am
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Terriffic story, Kristy. So glad things went well for you...
And thanks for being here and contributing so much to PE for so long... Conversations with you and few other dear hearts here got me through some really rough nights. So glad that your picture has remained on the top of every page...
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Comment by Jillian Munsell on October 10, 2012 at 7:40am -
That is a wonderful story and Im pleased the Presbyterian church - of which I am also a member has accepted you to the point of being an Elder. I was an Elder several years ago, and it always concerned me if my 'secret' became known. As it happened - my former wife, told the entire church family about it when we split, and still the church kept me close.
Good on you for your class and openness
J
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Comment by kay morgan on October 10, 2012 at 6:22pm -
I really enjoyed reading this blog post. When I transitioned , I had several females ask all kinds of
questions about myself. I wasn't ashamed to answer any questions they had as long as it was clean.
I'm still alittle ruff around the edges but it's not enough to be noticed.
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Comment by Chelle Munroe on October 11, 2012 at 2:39pm -
Good for you. It's the way it should be all the time---just acceptance and love for our neighbors.
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