Where are they?

Comment by stephanie dixon on July 22, 2012 at 8:08am

so true marsha it has been a while since i was here because of my studies .

but called back after nearly a year

Comment by Julia on July 22, 2012 at 9:17am

Your thoughts are the same like mine! I have to admit that I've also been "inactive" for some months till June this year, but I've noticed that something was missing in my life especially as my first year of hormones was finished. Thsi first year on hormones had brought so many wonderful new experiences and changes to me that I needed this break to understand all what was happily happening to me and to find my new place in my life as a woman with actually sightable changes ... I think such an emotion or experience also others may have made while their break with PE.

Otherwise I'm very happy that I've found back to PE and that I'm active again, but I also miss some of my sisters here since I'm back and some I've written a short note that I'm back haven't even answered yet ... All my best wishes and blessings with hugs to you and the other sisters and brothers!

Comment by HELEN BRADY on July 22, 2012 at 10:00am

I am sorry for you about your friend. It really hurts when something like that happens and you wanted to see them say one more time. I fear I may never see my daughters again, and sometimes even my son. Not because of any rejection of me, but simply distance. Supporting 2 people and working min. wage, does not give me much of an option for travel. I would have loved to have more time with my 2nd wife than the 4 years we had before she died suddenly at 35 (I was 59).

Comment by Julia Giannopoulos on July 22, 2012 at 1:10pm

I'm around.

PE changed radically from what I knew so I don't come around often.

I'm still here however and at times lurking without signing in.

Comment by Jillian Munsell on July 22, 2012 at 8:02pm

I too have wondered and worried about those who I have seen any updates from here in PE
I hope they are all simply moving on, in whatever way they find best.
I myself too, a 15 year hiatus from anything to do with being T.
It was right for me at the time, but also served to delay, what maybe the obvious, and inescable truth
I've often thought about some kind of message to leave to my wife (who knows of my membership here) with my login details so she could let my friends here know if something happens to me. I then think....I don't want to put that burden on her..

Im glad you thought to verbalized this blog... It's so heart felt.

Comment by Caroline Grace on July 22, 2012 at 9:40pm

Marsha, I am sorry you never got to meet Stephanie.  I met her in 2009 when I invited her to room with me during the Trans Ohio Conference. I typically book a room with two beds for someone who can't afford the lodging. It was Staphanie's first conference. I was in drab at the time. I took her shopping, to her first restaurant, to her first lesbian club,and elsewhere, too. During this trip Stephanie met Lana and Chloe. She also got to meet Cheryl, too, before she passed.

Of course you know I treated Steph well. Not sure if my profile still has the pictures from back then but if you spot a "guy" between two gals, you should recognize one of them as Stephanie. The "guy" is no longer around...  I heard he colored his hair, pierced his ears, and did something wild and wonderful...

Comment by Caroline Grace on July 23, 2012 at 5:43am

Julia mentioned that PE changed.  It has. When I first joined there were less than 200 on this new version of PE. PE evolves, but more so, so have the people here. Our needs are different. I once had a huge need for understanding what being TG meant, what were the best options for my future, what were other TG people like, where does one find doctors, etc. Now my needs are to share what I have learned.

My blogs show what I worry about each day and probably more important, the things I celebrate now. I could kick myself in the backside a thousand times and never drive home the point sufficiently about underestimating family, friends, and coworkers and their abilities to be supportive during my transition.

The close friends we made by sharing intimate details of our lives during our journies no longer have the need to be here. They are replaced by people who don't know us well. People who have worried with us when we told our families or loved ones. People who don't know how our employers reacted.

So in the end it isn't PE that has changed that much. It is just that we have graduated or those who were along the ride with us graduated before us. or at least this is what i think,  And if you read the stories, it's deja vu. How many times have we read those stories with but minor differences in the characters' names and locations?

As i move into a new residence with my ex-girlfriend I realize ho much our lives were and and still are connected. It doesn't matter where the future takes either one fo us. We were once connected in a way that remains solid. Lana Moore did a blog that is still up. It is called something like, "Reflections of a magical summer" and it is a video log of her and other's journies to Thailand. I have watched it more than a dozen times. I have cried each time except lately I have made it trhough without tears.  Those who have walked along with you will always be just as the music of Carole King said they would be, "Now and forever you will always be a part of me."

And as this people move on, we will miss them dearly, including those whose paths we will never cross again in our livetimes.  Hugs to all of them and so many thanks for becoming a part of me forever.

Comment by Teresa H Halley on July 23, 2012 at 6:23am

Yes I agree we need to keep an eye out for our sisters!

Comment by Dianne Miller on July 23, 2012 at 4:53pm

I still come around occasionaly but I have noted that many members have moved on although there are a few familiar faces still around.  One basic difference its sad to say is the lack of humor and warmth and reparte that used to sprinkle our blogs from time to time and made difficult issues rasier to cope with.  I don't think the trans issues have changed much just the new people who are facing these issues.  Yes these issues are serious and PE is here to help and inform BUT I wish people would lighten up some from time to time too.

Comment by Erin Detty on July 23, 2012 at 9:15pm

There is one person I talked to a lot, we emailed each other all the time. She told me some of the problems she was dealing with as did I. It was over a year ago that I last talked to her, she was having trouble in her marriage at the time. I hope that she is fine and is doing well, I'm worried. If she can, I wish she would let me know she's alright, her profile is still here,I hope she's ok. Transitioning is hard, I know some girls do give up, I've not wanted to but I can see how it would be something some do consider, I hope their doing "well" and are happy with their decision.     

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