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We Are Not Men .
Hi Ladies,it's been awhile since my last blog,and like 99% of my blogs,this one is direct and straight to the point and i hold nothing back.Those of you whom beg to differ,well that's OK,but if you are truly serious about knowing what it is to be a Trans woman and are sincere of heart you will agree with this Blog. I've had a few encounters with the "so called" non educated or non accepting, or ignorance is bliss type, and i am sure many of you have as well.Well i went to this jewelry store up in Sparta NJ about an hour NW of where I live,it was recommended to me by Cathy a propitiatory of real hair pieces in Newton NJ,she has catered to many a Trans woman looking for hair pieces.(I hate using the word Wig).So i entered this jewelry store the lady there greeted me and I thinking that my friend Cathy told her I was trans. So I did the honors of telling her. Quickly after that she was less receptive. She then replied "Oh I had a man like you come in here last month looking for that type of necklace.Woooooo Wait I retorted "Lets get something straight .What do you mean a Man, are you insinuating that I am a man,excuse me but I am legally a woman By Name,By Gender Marker And By The Law Of The State Of NJ.And Most importantly By Myself. I am by no means "A Man".Ohhhh! I didn't mean it like that . He wasn't as passable and refined as you are. No You Are a woman. You are fully Transitioned I could tell".I would never have known you were a man.Excuse I must correct you again on 2 account's I replied in a very calm demeanor,although this woman's lack of being Trans Knowledgeable was becoming rather irritating to me. I was never a man ,Let's get it straight. I was always a woman even in my other life in a male body and i must also chastise you on Why do you call this other Trans woman "A Man" just because you say she was not passable and did not completely transition.This by no means makes her (NOT HIM) any less of a woman than me. I don't know if what i said was absorbed by this Lady or not,but i hope the next trans woman that dose come in contact with this woman dose not have to go through this. Just 2 weeks ago i was He'd & called Him by this new cosmetic consultant at the Allure Factory were i go for facial care sessions. I filed a complaint shortly thereafter.She was I was told by the Physician whom runs the clinic severely disciplined for her non accepting behavior.Jill the girl that works there told me that the feeble minded woman told her "Oh you were her first Trans Client and since you were not a Genetic Woman she could not accept you. This sort of behavior must stop.This is more than close minded thinking.It's a hideous attitude shared by so many in this world. "Once A Man Always A Man"....It's got to change.But When......Time will hold no secrets.....Paula P
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Comment by Jamie Robin Gardner on July 10, 2012 at 7:21pm -
Why did you feel the need to tell her you are transgendered?
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Comment by HELEN BRADY on July 10, 2012 at 11:56pm -
Yes my dear. I had a woman I have known for nearly twenty years who has that attitude but omly not around me.
I no longer see or speak to her. I don't need to bear insulting behavior. EVERYONE else know fully accepts me as a woman.
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Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on July 11, 2012 at 4:45pm -
Tis a shame because tjhat part of New Jersey is so nice otherwise. I coomend you for standingup for yourself, but more so, educating this woman...one soul at a time, Paula.
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Comment by Dal Maxwell on July 11, 2012 at 9:27pm
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Maybe.......................We Are Devo?
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And I also happen to agree with Jamie Robin. IF your friend had told her 'the details' and to exect you then it a)should have been a given, and b)unnecessary to even bring it up.
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Comment by Rachel King on July 13, 2012 at 6:38am -
Gotta follow that train of thought of Dal's, as well.
Do you go into a restaurant and tell them you don't like the food but you'll eat it anyway?
Same-same in divulging such personal details to those who have no need to know.
Masochism is a favourite pastime of trans people but it's not recommended.
There comes a time when you let bygones be bygones and get on with living life.
Don't you think you have earnt that right?
I do.
And I know, I do.
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Comment by Jodie Jones on July 14, 2012 at 12:06pm -
Brilliant. Superb. I will tell anyone 'you don't have to like me, or who I am. But if you don't, stay away from me. Far, far away from me. I've experienced enough judgmental attitude to last three lifetimes'.
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Comment by Shirley on July 15, 2012 at 3:13am -
Im sorry u have issues about being born a he - join the club kiddo ! / most of us here were born GuyS - except in my own case I never lost any sleep over that ! ALL the best - Shirley
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Comment by Erin Detty on July 17, 2012 at 3:07pm -
I belong to a meetup group of hikers, that is part of or affiliated some how to the area I live in LGBTQA. I got an Email telling me that there is an opening for me if I want to go on a hike in another state for two days and two nights, I responded. I was told if men want to go they have to make their own arrangement's, I felt, I'm still not sure how I feel, I wasn't expecting this but it's the way the world seems to be and yes it did hurt. I'm not sure that I will find acceptance in many places sad to say.
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Tedie - Why not just send back an response asking what the rest of you are supposed to do.
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