there is life after a fight

Comment by Nicole Aime on March 29, 2011 at 6:59pm

Quite a week for you Kristen. Be true to yourself, but never be selfish. That adage applies to each and every person in this world, not just TG people. It seems that you and your spouse are working on this together. I'm happy for both of you.

Comment by Michaela Sandiego on March 30, 2011 at 3:05am

Yay, I'm so pleased!

I'm sorry you had to go through the initial angst though!

Comment by Melanie Cee on March 30, 2011 at 3:01pm

Kristen,

If I may I would caution you and your wife not to contact HR just yet,you have time. Your wife would likely have been issued a handbook outlining what benefits are included in her health insurance policy. You could also call the policy provider if it is not spelled out completely and thus remain anonymous for the time being. If you have a script for your hrt you can generally purchase them at many of the large box stores for less than the co-pay of an insurance policy. Although the conversation between hr and your wife are suppose to be a private matter hr may be required to inform her supervisor who can sometimes make the work environment uncomfortable for her if they are not onboard with this issue. Something she doesn't need at this time when she is struggling coming to terms with this change in your relationship. A relationship you may regard as lesbian but that does not make her a lesbian. Like my wife, she is a " lesbian by default". She loves you enough at this point to make an effort to work through this but most likely if the relationship does not survive she will look for a male, not another female.Sometimes love is not enough. It takes a special and strong person/spouse to stay in the relationship and if she is not now she will be if the 2 of you survive the transition. . Rush slowly dear and keep the lines of communication open and honest.

Comment by stephanie dixon on March 31, 2011 at 3:05am

this soundsd so good kristian I am so happy for you

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