The real girl inside

Comment by Kristen JoNicole Se'aman on April 20, 2012 at 8:22pm

the ability to pass is both a huge step to the ego, and yet a small step when in the closet

but the heart rules >>> I hope you find your peace

add me if you want :)

Kristen JoNicole

Comment by Daphne Anne Blake on April 20, 2012 at 9:53pm

my recomendation is to find a good therapist, this challenge is not to be experienced without help.

they may help you hook up with a local group of others like yourself. good luck I I wish you the best

Comment by Dal Maxwell on April 21, 2012 at 12:18am

You know, Jessica, much of passing is in your head.  Sure you have to look the role and you have to be damn good at it.  But no matter how well you are dressed or have the mannerisms down, if you don't feel it then you will not just get read but will be crushed by the experience.  I was told this trick once and never used it myself but I know others who have and they say it does work.

Once they had the superficial stuff down, they played Stayin' Alive from Saturday Night Fever in their head.  They say they pictured John Travolta strutting down the street.  Maybe it's the beat, maybe it's the mental image, but I have to think that just hearing it would get you seeing yourself walking down the street carefree.

Here's a good version for you; clean clear and loud:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLVAJ_GWlZA

Comment by Candace Lane on April 21, 2012 at 4:38pm

Finding a good therapist sounds like the place to start *agreeing with Daphne*.

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