Telling Family/children??

Comment by Shirley on December 23, 2009 at 2:14pm

If you were a small child and a parent would approach you with the intention to change their life style or sex role - how might you feel ? / Children deserve very careful consideration - their feelings should always come first - Just my own thoughts.... but some food for thought... since you asked for oppinions...

Comment by Darla Rose Klein on December 24, 2009 at 11:08am

What a heavy burden for all of us to go through,i dont think we can one day just tell children or parents,we must consider the age of our parents certainly!Maybe they just dont need to know now.My children are grown so i would feell more comfortable telling them.But at the age of children this is the best place to ask and seek the help of a therapist good luck!Hugs Darla

Comment by Gypsy Alive on January 23, 2010 at 1:27am

I can only share my own experience.
On telling my mother. We have always been very close and have had many a long night conversations about all kinds of things, so talking with her is easy and the second person I shared it with. She said, "well, I dont understand why but, if that's the way it is, okay." She now gives me make up tips and is pretty much okay with it as but has her limits. Too much eye shadow or to frilly of a blouse and she says, "no that wont work." We get along fine.
My kids I have not told directly. The reason I say it that ways is, kids have better hearing than we give them credit for and know way more perceptive than they get credit for. My middle kid was the first to start asking questions. He gave me a hypothetical, "friend at school," that was doing girlish things. My son wanted to know why some guys want to act like girls. I simply told him I couldnt answer for the kid he was seeing at school but asked him if he knew why it bothers him. He said it really didn't but he was just curious. I said, there are all kinds of people in the world and thats a wonderful thing. We need variaty of people the same as we need variaty of trees, flower, clouds etc. He was okay with that and the conversation changed back to the old video games. He's 13. The oldest thinks its all strange but says, the favorite, "whatever." He's 16. The youngest simply is trying to avoid it all.
I want so bad to sit them all down and tell them the whole truth. On the other hand I want to make sure they have someone to talk to about it. So the wife and I decided to wait to tell them until we have a councillor.
My wife. At first she was excited and supportive. Then I started being a little more bold publicly and people started to ask her questions and even challenge her. She takes to stepps forward in supporting me and falls back a step. She really needs more time and council to sort her feelings out.
I guess the biggest thing I have learned is we (TG persons) have to exercise such patience with our transission not only for our own transission but for our loved ones to make the transission with us. Each person sorts things in unique ways and timeing so we have to have extra patience for them to catch up with us, even when we already are feeling held back by the rest of the world. Please keep us posted to how things are coming along for you and your family. TTFN

Comment by Cyrsti Hart on March 26, 2010 at 1:51am

All you girls whose Mom's are supportive be thankful. Many years ago I finally came to grips with myself thanks to friends in the Army. following a certain Halloween party. When I got out, my Mom and I were having one of our late night chats and I told her. Her reaction? We'll pay for a shrink or electro shock therapy might work.
Not quite what I was looking for but she was from the depression/WWII generation and I didn't expect much of a different reaction.
Cyrsti

Comment by Stacey Renea Taylor on September 10, 2010 at 3:45pm

Thanks for the Birthday greeting Brandi!
I spent 12 years in the army and I still work for the Department of the Army on Ft Hood.

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