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Comment by Dal Maxwell on September 11, 2012 at 11:23am

It's a scam; DON'T send money!  I got an e-mail like that once, telling me that a friend was stuck in England.  Two things wrong with that; she doesn't get 'stuck' anywhere, and I had just barely gotten off the phone with her at her home in San Diego.

Comment by Karen Moate on September 11, 2012 at 11:49am

I was worried about that.  But it wasn't an e-mail it was a text message and the people would have to know about him taking care of his parents, his sisters name and that he was gay.  The text message came from his actual phone number which I have dialed but it says he is unavailable.  I have posted on his facebook page to see if it is true.  So my thought was maybe someone found his cell phone and set up a scam.  i do know that he lost one several months ago and e-mailed all of us asking for our phone numbers to put into his new phone.  So yeah it very well may be a scam because it came in at night and I haven't been able to verify with BOA that an account has been setup.

Comment by Karen Moate on September 11, 2012 at 12:57pm

I just contacted bank of america and it appears that the account is not real. So his lost phone had enough informa tion on it for these crooks to create a believable story about someone that I know. I hate scam artists. I was worried most of last night for nothing. I still need to contact him to let him know what is going on.

Comment by Lauren Elisabeth Tancyus on September 11, 2012 at 8:47pm

I'd be surprised if someone were asking for donations immediately after the attack while the person was in a coma. Wouldn't it be more logical that they would ask for prayer?

Sherri

Comment by Rachel King on September 12, 2012 at 5:22am

Obviously, your friend was Nigerian.

No true-blue A-merican would do that to another,would they?

And no true-blue A-merican would be so silly as to fall for such a scam that is becoming so old hat that my Gran doesn't even turn over in her grave any more......

Kevin, without meaning to be rude, which I manage to do so easily anyway, it's time to take a reality check.

You're wanting to believe anything at the moment and it makes no sense.

I love it that you open up here on Pe but I find it hard to cope with how you are not facing up to lifes realities.

And make no mistake, life is about reality and when you can face that, then you can think about your future.

Jeez, I sound harsh don't I, I don't mean to be but you are doing some dumb things, sadly.

Comment by Karen Moate on September 12, 2012 at 10:53am

Well Rachel I have a very real problem of trusting people and taking them at their word.  It may seem dumb to you but maybe I am still naive about a lot of things.  I am personally glad that I haven't become so jaded that I can't trust anyone anymore.  I am from the Southern part of the united states and a lot of the people there are just genuinely good folks.  You can take them at their word because they mean what they say and say what they mean.  It has been different living in the Northwest where people will stab you in the back and step all over you to get ahead.  I wasn't raised that way and it has been a huge culture adjustment for me.  I didn't fall for the scam because I do have a brain and I have learned to be careful.  I had just personally never run into that particular scam although I have seen others.  You have more knowledge on the subject because you have lived longer than me = more experience.  I can be just like a kid at times and I actually don't mind that about me.  I can't apologize for being who I am.  Keep in mind also that I have ADHD so my thinking is waaay different from the norm even without gender issues.  Call it a mental challenge or whatever but we tend to be the type of people who do things without thinking first.  I find it impossible to actually try and plan anything but I do make plans and I do think things through.  I don't believe anything that comes along even though it may seem I have presented things that way.  It wasn't my intent to come across that way.  No you aren't being rude you are trying to help and I appreciate it.

Comment by Rachel King on September 13, 2012 at 5:15am

Katherine,( I like)

You can get pissed at me all you like, it matters no-mind as long as you learn the lesson.

I'm from Oztralia, which is Australia to the uninitiated and one of our attributes is plain speaking which everybody on Pe will attest to me doing, constantly.

I look at what you write and I get alarmed because Pe is literally littered with those who have prematurely begun this journey without the necessary planning and personal infrastructure in place.

There is not one single post-op person here that doesn't wish that every trans woman who comes to Pe seeking their truth, could make the journey as successfully as we have and I am one of the few post-op women who have stayed with Pe, because I care, deeply.

And when I say something that grates, I don't care if you (or anyone else)  gets their dander up, as long as you listen and learn.

I don't know all the answers , acvtually, I know bugger all in the scheme of things but I do know what mistakes i have made and I do know that I want, very badly, to assist others in their path, that it might run smoothly.

I hope that will appease your angst.

I do appreciate your challenges but when it comes time that someone says," I wish to transition, " well then, the fantasy stops and the reality begins.

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