2/22/2012
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Spectacular Spectacle: Crossing "Over" Dressing
I was looking over some different photos posted on Facebook today by other TG's that are now out full time. One person in particular had some very good pictures (mostly of herself in everyone of them) from all around the world as she travels for business. What stood out the most when I look at them, is that she was very out of place for the way she was dressed, hair was groom, and the amount and type of make-up she wore.I was thinking this morning when I got up, I take for granted that I do not have to worry about my beard anymore... or other issues of passing. However, in those first years, I felt that, every time I went out, I wanted to make the most of EVERY moment to express my new lease on life to dress and "be" feminine in my presentation.
Looking over this woman's pictures, in most of them, she'd be wearing what I would consider business attire for a board room, or a female attorney to wear to court in many poses from all over - from the side of the high way, to the woods, to the beaches.... there she was - looking spectacular among the slums of little china town, and not at all fitting in with her environment or the other common appropriate dress of geographical area, temperature, let a lone for the beach.
People sometimes wonder why they stand out looking like a "Gender Variant Individule" (GVI) - this is the reason. Most women do not do these things, unless you are Ms.Roper from 3's company or Tammy Faye Baker.
Granted - there are times where you will be on your way to somewhere and you just happen to click a picture and it looks out of place - but, this is not the case of the behavior I am describing.
For many Part time GVI's, they feel "any" opportunity to get out "dressed", (even if its to pump gas), its FINALLY the chance to wear those rhinestone jeans with white heels... The Part-time GVI''s are not alone - I have noticed even some Full-time pre/post-op TransWoman doing this, as well. That is to say, rather than being practical, they HAVE to put on their makeup, earrings -and- make sure their nails are done before they can even get up to do lawn work in the morning.
When one goes out to dinner, a comedy club, dancing, theater, conferences, dates... these are the things I would consider ladies (and guys) get gussied up for.
I just had to pause at these pic's - not because she looked bad , not becasue she didn't pass, not becasue she wasn't beautiful... she was. It was because this was another form of cross dressing behavoir - Its what I refered to as "Crossing OVER Dressing". Its when someone has (or is) working on going Full-time and is still expressing themselves through their clothes for validation or plain out right reaction of others, and are not yet comfortable with who they are to just "be" themselves and slip on a t-shirt, shorts and head out and mow the lawn, without having to put on a show for... well... themselves.
I've caught myself doing this... and even genetic women too.
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Comment by Ria Lacey on August 21, 2010 at 3:27am -
Hi
Nice blog and very to the point. However there are many sides to the TG world. There are many people who travel a you depicted on business or for whatever reason and while being away from home use the opportunity to dress with a limited wardrobe. This usually happens because the little lady back home is not aware that her beloved has a fancy for ladies clothes against his skin.
I know one such person and have been to dinner in a (straight as it were) restaurant. She oused such confidence and brashness it was unbelievable. Yet she is terrified of the little lady back home finding out. But dressing only takes place while on business trips. In heels she is heading for 7 feet in height and she loves short flouncy dresses and skirts. She does look a little like a fish out of water but she carries it off with a happy go lucky air, not caring what the world and its sister thinks.
I come to realize its all about being you. Yourself. The opinion and comments of the rest of the world are irrelevant when you are happy about yourself and who you are, where you are, how you are dressed or who you are with.
So in essence I guess I am saying, be who you are and who you want to be and the only opinion that matters about yourself is your own.
Sorry if this sounds like a bit of a rant but I felt i had to share my experience of being with Penelope with you.
Ria
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Comment by Rachel King on August 15, 2010 at 9:29pm
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Thank you for giving this blog, a genetic woman's perspective, LeAnn.
This blog has generated heated debate, mostly from early Transitioners and those whose proclivities remain firmly as crossdressing and many have been scathing of Chloe for her pointing out what is obvious to any who care to blow the smoke from their eyes.
Rachel, is so fortunate to have you for a friend and I can only implore others to get out there and develop friendships with natal women so you have someone who can steer you in the right direction when it comes to what's right and what's not, in everyday wear.
Of course the voyeurs will continue to go out as made-up doillies and reflect poorly on us as a community.
Let's hope the majority will listen and whenever they present in public, it will be in such a way, that the general public( the unwashed masses) will look upon TG's as people quite "normal" to their way of thinking and people that do not threaten their standard of beliefs.
We are Ambassador's for the future generation and what we do now will have an effect on their lives.
It's called blending and it is a satisfying feeling, I can tell you.
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Comment by Connie Dee Malone on August 10, 2010 at 2:28am -
Bentonville, Arkansas? The WallMart there has Razorback Rollbacks! I guess that I'll have to admit that my family comes from Pea Ridge, Arkansas. But they all left before WallMart came to be. Anyway, it just goes to show that it's not where you're from, but where you are - and where you are going - that makes the difference. Where you shop could make a difference too, I suppose. Personally, I stay away from any store that ends in Mart.
Bowling in heels will make you a high roller, don'tcha know!
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Comment by Dianne Miller on August 9, 2010 at 10:58pm -
Connie, I sure wish I was there to watch the bowling. I have never seen anyone bowl in high heels before!
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Comment by Dianne Miller on August 9, 2010 at 10:46pm
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Now why are we picking on Walmart? There's always K Mart too. Some of the same types who shop at Walmart probably shop at K Mart too. Just not as many of them or any customers for that matter. To Rachel: do they have Walmart down under? If not we can always bring civilization down to you. BTW: Bentonville, Arkansas is a very progressive town. Been there twice shopping for clothes, just not at Walmart!
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Comment by Connie Dee Malone on August 9, 2010 at 9:42pm
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And girls, don't worry about your hot tub videos; you can obviously wear your bathing suits at WalMart too! They wouldn't take your pic there, however, cuz you both look way too good!!!
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Comment by Lana Moore on August 9, 2010 at 9:23pm -
LOL Chloe... it reminds me of the day I saw a woman at Walmart with "Moose Knuckle" ... IN THE REAR! :O
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Comment by Chloe Prince on August 9, 2010 at 9:17pm -
I really had a good roll of it over the pic title "Nacho Libre" Its not really all to funny until you follow the tip in the description at the bottom of the pic.
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Comment by Connie Dee Malone on August 9, 2010 at 9:03pm
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Yeah, Chloe, it's like a car wreck - somehow you just have to keep looking, no matter how terrible it is! I wasted too much time with the people of WalMart too. I will just wait until my friend sorts through them and sends me a dozen at a time, as she's done a few times before. Fortunately, I, like Rachel, have yet to see any PE member's pics on the site!
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Comment by Lana Moore on August 9, 2010 at 9:01pm
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can't afford to get sucked in tonight, too much to do... m-u-s-t r-e-s-i-s-t o-v-e-r-w-h-e-l-m-i-n-g t-e-m--t-a--t-i-o-n to g-o-o-g-l-e p--e--o-p-l-e... of... w-a-l--m-a--r--t.... *click* A-H--h-h-h-h-h-h-h!!!!!.........
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