Some reasons I'm thankful that my soon to be Ex-wife is an amazing person.
1. When I first told her I was TG, she called me later that day and told me that she "has never judged anyone, whether they are gay or Transgendered or whatever." (Don't know what she meant by the "whatever", but I may also be covered if I develop some other rare medical condition!).
2. When I first told her, she said she felt like a "victim" in our relationship. After visiting my gender therapist with me this week, she said she thinks I'm a victim, for having to deal with this dysphoria all my life.
3. She has promised to never cut me off from our kids, no matter what. She wants me to find a place here so I can be in our children's lives.
4. She says she will be as supportive as she can as I move forward in my transition.
Honestly, I've been a good dad to my kids, and have loved my wife over these past 19 years as I've loved no other person. I don't want to leave my family, as they have given joy to an otherwise joyless life, but she says she doesn't want to see more physical changes. I know everyone here can relate to having "run out of rope" in stuffing the reality of who we really are away for so many years. I simply will go insane if I can't continue on my journey. So I must leave.
As down and out as I feel about having to go, and making my children cry, I must remember to feel fortunate that my wife is the quality person she is. I've heard stories of those in our situation who are shunned and locked out of their kids lives.
Heavy stuff for my first post, but if not here, where? Thanks for reading it. Erica