Psycho-Evo-Paleo BS

Comment by Caroline Grace on October 6, 2011 at 5:46am

Several quick responses I can think of here:

 

a) Many transwomen don't want to be thought of as guys in dresses. They want to be thought of and treated like women. So if this guy is treating them as women, he's likely to get a good response IF they are into guys.

 

b) "Daddy issues" has been raised, including by some in university settings.  No doubt that may a contributing factor for some in their behavior. But as reason for being TG it has been discredited.

 

c) Remember that GGs have issues with their "daddies", have fetishes and other deeply rooted psychological problems, many of them still like to be treated like a woman, and they like guys who are very manly.

 

d) Manly crossdressers might get in return: acceptance of what they consider a "problem" in their manliness. They may also get to see body parts that gay men get to see regularly.  This could be a way for some to do that without feeling gay. It could be that they are giving what they seek most but think can never happen for them: acceptance of femininity that doesn't match the biology seen on a person's exterior.  Whatever the case is for them, they do receive something in return that helps them in their struggle.

 

Yes, they are struggling, too.  Typically, one does not go through the expense in terms of time and money to attend a conference without having drivers pushing you. To be quite honest before I went to SCC I wasn't that thrilled about attending. My reasons for SCC (in order of importance to me) were: supporting friends who were presenting; meeting up with a family member; meeting up with friends who live in Atlanta; meeting friends from PE I never actually met in person; visiting family in a nearby city; and learning.  At the end of the conference my learning would have been bumped way up in importance and my interest in attending conferences was also dramatically increased. But those are my reasons for attending and not those of a crossdresser. I would be very interested in hearing about all these "guys" get out of attending.

Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on October 6, 2011 at 7:12am

It's a slippery slope to paint with a broad brush with on any canvas, and mabe your experience with TSs as been as you describe, but I know many (as myself) who were not abuse, not abandonned, don't like men and felt at 5 years old or earlier they were not in the correct body for their gender.

But as Annie Lennox sang, "Sweet dreams are made of these, who am I to disagree?"

Comment by Jo Browne on October 6, 2011 at 3:06pm

I can't say that fits me. Certainly I'd like a masculine man, but I don't have Daddy issues as I had a very loving and caring father. I just think masculine men make me feel more feminine

Comment by Vallin SFAS on October 6, 2011 at 11:30pm

My ONLY acceptable self-concept of masculine is 60's-70's Glam-Goth (Abbey Road Gothic). I don't think people get that. 

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