My next step

Comment by Sylvia on March 8, 2010 at 7:41pm

Larisa....
If I understand what you've written here correctly, you had a girlfriend who has died and that is tragic. I am sorry for your loss. But no amount of grieving can bring her back - she is gone from this world and you are still here. So, you need to be true to yourself - and not the idea of who you were to your deceased girlfriend.
If you are finding yourself attracted to boys - so be it! All things are natural - including your feelings!
What does your roommate want you to wait for? Why wait to be you?

Now you asked - "what should I do?"
But here's an answer you probably didn't expect to get - I am going to be brutally honest here and suggest that you use your time while out of work to perhaps take some Community College English classes. I dont know your situation at all - and it is truly not my intention to hurt your feelings, make you feel bad about yourself or dissuade you from posting on this or any other site. But!,,,,your ability to communicate your thoughts through writing is ... well - just horrible! A reader could barely understand what you are trying to say. You use the wrong words, the wrong spelling, no punctuation - its a real task to understand what you are trying to say - and that is a shame because I want to understand what you are trying to say... but its a lot of work and I have to mentally correct what you have written to make sense of it.

I hope you will take this for what it is and not as someone who is trying to be cruel. I just think perhaps you need to hear the truth? You say you are 31 and out of a job and you think you can take care of yourself...but I think your inability to communicate through writing could seriously keep you from doing just that. If you are going to get anywhere in life - you need to be able to communicate effectively - that's just all there is to it.

I am sure you are a great person - and I don't doubt that you have what it takes to find a way to fill in the gaps in your education. If you want to have a good, healthy life. I would start there.

Good luck with the boys!

Comment by Rachel King on March 9, 2010 at 8:00am

Nothing I have seen written here in this blog and it's replies is mean or said out of spite.
Larisa, if you hope to survive as a TG person you must get to grips with the reality of life and the first step is how you present yourself.
This not only includes clothing presentation but also spoken and written skills.
It's a hard world out there as you well know, so please do everything to improve your people skills so that when you are facing the world you are holding your head up high because you are the best person you can be.

Criticism should and must be openly put on blogs because that is not only how you learn, it is how others including myself learn and I welcome and encourage learning in all shapes and forms.
If as suggested, this comment was put privately, what about the others who might have benefited by those words.

I might add, that Crystalynn and I discussed your blog and wonder if in fact it is genuine. It is hard to credit that someone could mispell nearly every single word.
Deliberate or not, you my dear, need to take stock and fix your life skills.
Good luck.
Rachel

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