My life so far

Comment by Julia on September 11, 2012 at 2:39am

Dear Ashley,

 thanks by heart for your deepgoing views into your life. The way you've made your start to transition is great and surely had made you think a lot how to do it and what to take care of before you did your first steps. Congrats that your family seems to support you and that you could come so far yet. Your experiences give me once more a little bit more selfconfidence for the thoughts and ideas how to come out to my family ... Thanks so much and my best wishes for you and your furher way you still have to go! Love & many hugs from a german friend

Yours Julia 

Comment by Rachel King on September 11, 2012 at 4:38am

In spite of all the ups and downs, you had a loosely drawn up plan of what you wanted to do with your life.

Life throws up these curve balls and we have to go where our heart tells us is the right path.

Usually our head knows better but our heart gets in the way, so I applaud your ability to follow a path, be side-tracked by life, then re-find your path again.

I stress so many times that one has to have a plan.

I'll use a quote that the delectable Lana Moore used the other day,

If you fail to plan, plan on failing.( strewth, forgotten the original, but that will have to do)

Don't let your past weigh down your future, 'You can't change what was, only what will be."

Good luck with shared custody and good luck as your journey continues.

 

Comment by Caroline Grace on September 11, 2012 at 5:03am

Plan your work, work your plan is a simple saying worth remembering.

Lana's was something like, "People don't plan to fail, they fail to plan." Of course, I, too, am remembering it when all I have to do is go read her comment again and quote it directly.

Fighting to find a way to stay male is something all of us TS try to do as best we can for as long as we can, unless we are incredibly smart and lucky enough to attempt this early in our lives.

Love the go be "gay" comment as if one could choose who they are. You have now spent decades trying to be male. How did that work out for you? Being gay would be cheaper, you'd have a better sense of style, and you'd be fashionable if you join that group... You wouldn't have to worry about your voice, or HRT. Maybe I should change my plan for my upcoming SRS and put $20 grand back into my bank.  That sounds like a fabulous plan to me, if only it would work...

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