While I was at SCC this year I had the honor of meeting a very special woman and author of the book "The color of Sunlight" It was a very moving book and I would like to share my comments I sent to the author in an email. Michelle Alexander is a true friend and advocate for the TG community and I would hope that others would give her book a read. Thank you Michelle. Here is the email that I sent her after reading her book:
> Dear Michelle,
> I love to read books. I cant tell you
> whats popluar on TV these days or whats currantly out at the
> movies but I can tell you I sit surrounded by over 700 books
> just in my front room. I love to read, so does the rest of
> my family.
> I should've finished the book sooner than I did but
> more than once my eyes filled with tears and I had to
> withdraw myself from it to soak it all in. Some of the pages
> do have tear stains on them. More than once during my
> reading I wanted to reach out and give you a much needed
> hug, I could feel your pain.
> I never had the priveledge of meeting Mishell but
> through your words I feel I know her. She was alive in my
> frontroom as I tore through your book. The courage that she
> had in the face of such monumental obstacles and objections
> was super human. At times her will and perseverance shamed
> me. For the troubles I have encountered in my life that I
> thought were tragic they have no comparison to struggles she
> faced. She is an inspiration to me. After reading of her
> plight I realize that my worst day was nothing more than a
> sunny afternoon without ice cream compared to hers. I dont
> know that I would have her strength if our roles were
> reversed. She always kept plodding along, a force of one.
> You also provided me with a view of myself from
> outside the TG community. I have always tried to have
> empathy for those on the other side of the fence but all I
> can do is guess whats in peoples minds. I appluade your
> strength and inquisitiveness to understand the things you do
> not, but you are an exception. I hope that never changes
> about you. I can tell that you have passed that quality on
> to your sons, you have a wonderful family and you should be
> proud of how you have raised them.
> I have also high-lighted a half dozen sentances out
> of your book knowing that others in my family will be
> reading it in the future. The sentance I have marked are
> feelings I have and comments I myself have made in the past.
> I am hoping my family realizes thats my way of saying,,,,,,I
> feel the same way. I do know that your book will help my
> mother understand a little more about who I am. I whole
> heartedly thank you for that. I know that it wont answer all
> her questions or address all of her concerns but it will
> help her to see that I am not a unique person. That I come
> from a sorority of challanged souls trying to make life
> right for themselves.
> Your book will also demostrate to my daughter the
> uphill battle she will face to over come ignorance and bias
> within the medical profession. I feel she is aware of the
> fight she has undertaken but she is determined and a
> fighter. She is also one of my biggest advocates and proud
> to be my daughter. Everyone in her classes knows that her
> father is transgender and I feel sorry for those that make
> off color remarks at my expense while in her presence. They
> will see the momma lion come out in her and feel her wrath.
> Both of my daughters are like that and I couldnt ask God for
> better, I know how lucky I am. I still have ALL of my family
> with me while I make my transition, I wish that could've
> been the same for Mishelle. My family is important to me and
> I could feel her pain and isolation when she needed them
> most. Its hard to imainge how things would have worked out
> for her if she had been in a nuturing environment and had
> the support she truely needed in
> her life. I feel real pain within myself knowing that God
> chose her to travel that road so others could be educated
> and learn from her experiences. I know God loved her dearly
> and had alot of faith in her spirit to burden her with such
> a heavy load for the benifit of others. Why is pain
> humanities greatest teacher? We never seam to learn much
> from our successes but we learn volumes from our failures
> and struggles.
> Thank you for being who you are. It
> truely is my honor to have met you and I thank you for your
> friendship. I know that your feelings for all of us TG
> people are sincere and it warms my heart knowing that you
> are on our side. You owe us nothing, and we owe you alot.
> Thank also for sharing that brief part of your life with the
> world, I know your work will touch many souls for years to
> And not to be a pian,,,,,,,but, I know
> the title of your next book. "Crossing Boundries" This time
> it should be your story, an autobiography. People like you
> are rare and I feel you can inspire alot of folks in the
> future to act on whats right, even if means disregaurding
> the rules. You put yourself in professional peril by doing
> what you did and for all the right reasons, LOVE. Love, care
> and concern should be what motivates all of us even in times
> when its not convienient.
> Thank you again, you did touch my soul to
> its core.
> Your FRIEND ALWAYS, Cherynn