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They are really into being Trans... They enjoy Trans, live Trans, breathe Trans.... and basically have their entire identity around being trans..... not sure I could ever fit in with a group like that.... I don't wanna be Trans. I just wanna be the woman that I know God created me to be....
It reminded me of a lot of the people I dealt with at my church that were recovering alcoholics or druggies.... When you would meet them, it was never "Hi, I'm Jim".... it was always "Hi, I'm Jim and I've been sober...." I never could understand why it was that important to identify that way... Inside (and I know this is wrong, but I'm being honest here) I would think, "Just grow up and get over it"... That is kinda how I felt about some of the girls there last night... Don't get me wrong, they are really nice people, but being in that mind set gets you stuck in transition FOREVER, with no hopes of getting out... Frankly...for me, I wish I had a magic wand and could just do it all in one fell swoop so I could get on with the rest of my life...."
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Comment by Nicole Aime on May 10, 2010 at 9:14pm -
Roxanne, My opinion is that just like an alcoholic is always an alcoholic, a trans woman is always a trans woman. If I was finished with my gender transformation, I would live my day to day life as a woman. I would not mention that I am a trans woman, unless there was a need. That need could be an opportunity to educate someone. That need could be to tell a potential mate - I wouldn't want my husband to someday find out his wife was dying of prostate cancer. You get the drift.
However, I have determined that I will never close the door to my trans sisters. I want to be there for them and support them in any way I can. Just like they have been there for me. And just like AA people naturally talk about A, trans women will talk about trans things. It's just natural.
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Comment by Roxanne Croft-Barreto on May 10, 2010 at 9:35pm -
Nicole....
I definitely see where you are coming from, and I would never turn away from helping any trans women that were earnestly seeking advice and counsel.... And I agree with telling the people close to you.... for instance, my mate knows all about it and actually is actively assisting in my transition.... I just get concerned about people getting stuck in the past and not wanting to move forward.... I have had a few come to me saying that they needed my help, but they truly didn't want to go beyond where they were.... It was as if they feared losing their identity if they moved on.... And I know that I am never 100% going to get past the fact that I am trans, but I don't want my identity built around it... Truth is, I want my identity built around being a woman after God's own heart... (Proverbs 31 style!!!) And what I am striving for is for people, when saying things behind my back, to say "If you need prayer, see Roxanne, God listens to her!"....
Just my 2 cents worth...
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Comment by Nicole Aime on May 10, 2010 at 10:03pm
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I'm on the same page. I want to live the Proverbs 31 "lifestyle". I summed it up the other day. Most people become better after they die. I want to be that kind of person who does not become better.
So many people fall into the trap of being defined by their circumstances. Most are not pleasant to be around, whether their circumstances are trying, or wonderful. The former is whiny, the latter is boastful. I want to be like Paul - I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound - I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
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Comment by Roxanne Croft-Barreto on May 10, 2010 at 10:04pm
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EXACTLY!!!!!
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