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This post isn't discuss my reasons for Choosing Dr. McGinn to perform my vaginoplasty, or to discuss any of the terrible experiences with her office, and many terrible experiences with the staff at the hospital, I may post about that later. This is solely to go over my post op results.

My recovery immediately following surgery went very well, I had no major infections in the hospital, I bleed very minimally. I peed within hours of having my catheter removed, the majority of the pain I felt was from being stuck for days in bed. And compared to some people post aesthetic vaginal looks mine looked very good. I had great sensation during my first dilation in her office. Everything went really well until about the end of February, I should say at this point that my surgery was on January 23rd. The end of February the left side of my clitoris began to fuse to the surrounding hood. Slowly this nasty fibrosis painful tissue began to develop around my the still exposed sides. About mid March dilation becoming painful, I was doing her recommended five times a day. It slowly became extremely painful I'd have to drink to get through the pain as medications did nothing for it.  

Over the following months the pain became more and more intense. It got to point in June where i had to cut down on my dilation, because I couldn't stand drinking anymore and even it wasn't helping with the pain much anymore. I should also add that my clitoris is also painful to touch as well as the area around it, and actually the whole area. Becoming aroused these days hurts to badly, I near cry out in pain. 

Then the worst part of all, happened three weeks ago now, I had some free time so I decided to try out a vibrator, I started with the dilators, but I noticed that being aroused caused the area around the opening to my vagina to raise up almost like an erection and the entire area was raised up, including my labia, the opening to my vagina was very difficult to locate, or even get into with even my smallest dilator. The pain at that point was intense I still went through with trying it out, as I've been sexually frustrated for months and I wanted to relieve that badly. Though I was gentle and went slowly and used lots of mineral oil, it was painful, and I bleed a bit, "bit" is an understatement

I made an appointment with a local doctor who has been following me post of that afternoon, I also contacted McGinn's office. Of course the local doctor had no idea what was going on, and McGinn wanted to say I was having phantom pains, or that my hormones were off. 

My local dr got me into see Marci Bowers, just this past Monday, she was up here for Gender Odyssey, immediately looking at my vagina she pointed out the fibrosis tissue, and said she had no idea what it was but that she could fix it. She did say I had too much erectile tissue, that my clitoris was too high, and that I had some extra skin around my labia. She wanted to schedule me for a labiaplasty to help with my pain. 

At this point it's hard to want to go through with another surgery, especially considering that something can go wrong again, I could lose sensation altogether. And I could live the rest of my life stuck in this place where I feel aroused at normal times, but it just adds to this never ending feeling of unrelieved sexual frustration, it's been hell.   I never realized before how big of a part of life, sex was until this happened, and the pain is nothing compared to missing out on that. At this point I couldn't even imagine being sexual with someone the pain is way too great, I can't even touch myself, Bowers even had to give up on my exam. 

 And a little tack on note for the end of this post. It's recently come to my attention that surgeons to improve their technique, try out new things. I know someone who told by bowers who had her surgery done by her that she would even do some things differently now. Now it's just something to keep in mind with having surgery, that your surgeon my try something different out, and it may not be for the better. 

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Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on August 9, 2012 at 7:36pm

I have heard mainly good, but also bad reports about Dr. McGinn's procedures or post ops care. What I have read from you sounds familiar from other stories concerning her schluffing off complaints after surgery. On the other hand I have personal friends who rave about her skills.

Frankly, any surgeon makes mistakes and it isn't solely about the technique, but also what "canvass" the artist has to work with, which is no criticism of you, but she may have had obstacles to overcome of which she had difficulty processing.

I had Dr. Rumer perform my vagioplasty and the clitoris was causing pain also due to scarring on one side. She suggested a cocoa butter cream which eradicated the scar allowing me to really enjoy sexual experiences.

I am really sorry to hear about this negative post-op experience and hope someone (Marci?, are you sure?) will be able to fix the problem.

One last thing, the care at Lower Buck County Hospital was excellent for me, but I have heard of, and seen, bad experiences so I suppuse it depends on who is on staff and maybe what side of the wing one is assigned.

Hugs for healing.

Marsha

Comment by Galina Edwards on August 9, 2012 at 9:30pm

I have to agree with Marsha that the staff at lower bucks was great.  Yea laying on my back for three days really sucked and for them to bring you food you could not eat because you were on your back sucked even worse.

Dr. McGinn is my surgeon too.  I have had a couple of issues but nothing serious.  I have a lot of sex and enjoy it but I am not having orgasms.  I have had about 5 by myself.

As with any surgery, there can be complications and we are warned of that.  But do not give up hope or the spirit to make your body right for yourself.

Hugs, Galina

Comment by Kayla Isis A on August 9, 2012 at 10:24pm

I really just wanted to put this post out there as I've only read good things about McGinn myself, I don't want to paint a bad picture of her ability, but I don't want anyone else to have a false impression of the possible results from her or anyone else, without hearing about how surgery went for me. I've heard of bad things happening from every surgeon out there including Suporn, and Bowers. I also had someone close to me in my life not too long ago, who felt that surgery would fix all her problems, and guys were just going to start crawling out of the woodwork for her post op, but that very well may not be the case. 

I'm not sure at this point who I will chose to fix my pain/ extra erectile tissue problem, I'm going to try and wait it out, though I still can't believe that she would try to completely deny what was obvious to me, without having to have Marci confirm it. I only saw Marci as she was in town and the only person who I could see that would have an idea of what was going on, without having to get on a plane. 

And yes I was well aware that something could go wrong. But from my own ignorance on the matter I felt that if I wasn't orgasmic after surgery that I wouldn't be able the feel sexual arousal the way that I do, I want others to learn from my experience. A lot of people are pretty hush, hush about the small little down sides of being post op, I think though the more people know before hand, the more prepared they'll be afterwards. 

And Marci did say that she has changed her technique quite a bit over the years, all surgeons do. 

And a little bit about the hospital, In the OR  one of the anesthesiologists, just before I was put under said "I got him his pillow" I was referred to as him by the food server on day three, I complained to my nurse, told her about some of the other issues, and she on my last say referred to me as "he" as well while speaking to my mom out in the hall. I go on about little things like having to wait 30-50 minutes sometimes when I hit the call button as well. Heather told me that all of the staff who see McGinn's patients are trained in how to deal with and address them. But really they're trained? Being trained to be respectful of people, doesn't really make for a nice understanding post op stay. 

Comment by Galina Edwards on August 10, 2012 at 11:51am

Kayla I just wanted address what you wrote about your friend. I know she has other reasons for GRS other than thinking guys will fall over her.  I have thought about a dating blog but I will tell you dating is tough.  I do not care if your are L, B, G, T, or S(straight), everyone has the same problem in the dating world.  There has also been a blog written about to tell or not to tell someone before or after someone you are dating that you have had GRS.

As in all new relations, BE CAREFUL.

Comment by Kayla Isis A on August 10, 2012 at 1:32pm

It was really sad about my friend, she's a great person, has so much offer, but she would always beat herself up over everything, and she felt that she wouldn't have a life at all until she had surgery, she also felt everything bad that happened was because she hadn't had surgery. I was even there for one of her suicide attempts last June, though she wanted to say it was because she's tired of waiting for surgery, there are so many terrible things in her life, her parents were horrible to her for the entirety of her life, but the biggest of all was she never believed in herself. Though with her and the way the better part of her life went, it was understandable why she was so beaten down. But one thing I can for sure now, telling people up front about being transsexual it was easier to get a date post op, just saying. I felt I was good at weeding out the chaser types, but really I am not sure now. 

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