Just thinking

Comment by Christen Bustani on August 22, 2010 at 1:52pm

Guys perhaps do have it easier in regards to presentation. They certainly don't seem to have to worry about the makeup and the hair, the clothing and the accessories quite so much as the women. They seem to receive less societal judgment and bias which makes things a bit easier.

With all of this in mind, I used to question my own identity and my desires to be the woman I am inside. Understanding the additional tedium involved with being a woman and understanding that I had created a successful life as a male did not make the logic more understandable.

The choices in life to be who I am inside do not make life easier except internally. To NOT be the woman I am within leads to anxiety and depression - something which can only be bottled up for so long. This is not a choice to be who I am. I can not suppress or choose not to be who I feel inside I truly am - not without depression and anxiety returning to rule the sanctum of my inner mind. So the only choice is the choice to either live in a state of dysphoria and depression or to embrace the additional challenges and responsibilities of integrating my life as a woman so that I may at least have an unfettered mind.

Did it bring me to a life that was "easier"?

Well - life is never easy - and choices are never absolute - but at the end of the day - if you can say that your mind is in harmony with your body - then at least it makes it possible to then go on and live your life without having to deal with the dichotomy between body and spirit each and every day.

The right choices in life are those in which you can come to the end of the day, look back at them and say... "I made the best choices I could and I can live with what those choices have dealt unto me"

Hugs,

Christen

Comment by Rachel King on August 22, 2010 at 6:45pm

I like the "you guys"
If it wasn't so funny I might be offended.
I spend 5 years of my life and countless $ to be a "you guy"
Still,I get what your wifes idea of what male pomposity is and she is totally right.
As a cross-dresser, you live the majority of your life as male, I thought you would know thatt?
As all Mainlanders know, those from Tassie are a little off-kilter,hahaha.
Being a woman is and never will be easy, it will be natural and it will be self-fulfilling but easy...........hahahaha, your wife is a smart woman and obviously wears the pants in your family.

Comment by Jessie Robins on August 23, 2010 at 10:38pm

As to pants in the family, we are a weird couple we share "everything". Though I think her comment was less posed as a physical based as to a life based issue. As in we work come home "some" help clean and relax. What started it was I felt in the conversation the Women have it easier, based on the social issues of finding a mate and living life in general.
As based as a Tassie issue I really don't fall into that as I am a transplant from another part of the world I choose to live here (what was I thinking, lol).

Christen,

Thank you for you in depth view of the question.

Comment by Lauren Elisabeth Tancyus on August 28, 2010 at 1:19am

I've thought recently (again, for the very first time ;) ) that we look at someone else and we think, "wow! He has a perfect life" or we think "that girl has a light around her and you know that she'll never have a tough day in her life". How much further can we ( read I) be wrong! We never know what burden someone else is carrying. They may look like the most successful, has it all, a perfect life, when nothing could be further from the truth. There are advantages to being a man and advantages to being a woman, but both have their down sides as well. If we (again, read I) lose sight of that, we end up making bad personal decisions.

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