"We are One"

Is this a blessing or a curse?

I was in my metal mood today and was listening to My Curse by Killswitch Engage and I got to thinking that at one point being transgender was my curse. These days I've come to embrace being transgender and after 20 years of negativity associated with it I now view it as a blessing. In hindsight enduring that negativity for so long (even longer for some of you ladies) isn't necessarily worth it. The fact is however, that this is something hardwired into our very identity and we're forced to live with it. We can either let it control us and drive us into madness or learn to turn a negative into a positive.

Personally, I feel liberated; I can be myself at all times. I've developed thicker skin through transition and become a stronger person because of it. I actually care about what I'm wearing, I absolutely love getting all girly with makeup, nails etc, I can actually talk to women now and not just for trying to get a date, and just overall I get to experience the world differently than most people can begin to imagine. My life was ok as a guy, but much of what was leaving me confused and lost has fallen into perspective now that I'm transitioning. I get to look forward to living the rest of my life as a woman and that just feels right and makes me happy. Yes, it was painful in the past and there are many challenges going forward, but I now consider being transgender a blessing.

Does anyone else feel that being transgender is a blessing or is it just trying to make the best of a bad situation?

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Comment by Melanie Cee on September 14, 2012 at 9:11pm: Actually if you are on hrt your skin is getting thinner.;) Definitely a blessing.That's depending on who you ask of course. If it was easy everybody would be doing it. We'd see commercials... "Trade in that tired old gender".... "but wait".

Comment by Nathine Tereana Goldenthal on September 14, 2012 at 9:12pm: I don't tend to believe it is either. It's simply what we make of it. For the most part all of us have some genetic variation that defines us as female, or for the FTM males. That's why I state that transgenderism is a spectrum, there are numerous reasons from AIS, Mosaicism, etc to fetal androgen or estrogen exposure. It's who we are. It can't be a curse if we accept it, and it's not a blessing since we are not any better than the cis population. In Japan we are referred to as new types, not X-men/x-women. It is neither a good, nor bad situation, it just is.

Comment by Caroline Grace on September 15, 2012 at 8:15am: It is good for us to celebrate who we are and the beauty that is within us...

Our abilities to celebrate who we are has been missing for a long time, hasn't it? Social stigma still exists, so it is a milestone when we find the courage to not only accept who we are but to rejoice in that knowledge, too.

Since we have lived in one non-aligned gender and finally begun living in one which brings us greater joy and true sense of integrity, I do believe that we are blessed to experience that change.

Comment by Miranda James on September 15, 2012 at 2:19pm: We need to start a National Transgender Day, let's give us a day to really celebrate our uniqueness because I believe what I have is a blessing.

Comment by Ritulia Vakaraite on September 15, 2012 at 4:48pm: Really it's not a curse. It's the way to be who we are inside.

Comment by Erin Detty on September 15, 2012 at 9:07pm: The only real challenge for me, other than myself has been holding on to my Marriage. Transitioning has showed me and taught me a lot about myself, trying to be a male sucked! I think its the calm that has aloud me to see things I over looked before.

Fear has cost us a lot, scared to be ourselves, sounds kind of silly to me now. I have through my transition realized that my marriage was somewhat in trouble before my transition, now I feel I have the chance to hopefully save it and yes it won't be the same kind of relationship that it was suppose to be in the beginning but better, I hope.We do agree that we are best friends and that's good enough for me.

There has been times I wondered what I'm doing, felt like I messed everything up but as fast as that feeling came to me it would leave and I would realize there is no F$%en way I would have it any other way, I love being me, I love the woman that I am, I'm finally free.

Comment by Annette Brunette on September 16, 2012 at 12:13am: I remember when I first started going out in public back in the mid 90's how much fun it was. I always knew I wasn't TS so I enjoyed the journey as much as I could. The period of euphoria lasted about 10 years. In '01 I grew out my hair with the result that I looked exactly the same whether in male or female mode. At some point you get used to the way you look.

I now regard whatever TG feelings I have (or had) as neither a blessing nor a curse. It's just there.

Comment by Erin Detty on September 16, 2012 at 12:59pm: Stephanie, Being proud of yourself is the right choice, just be glad your a better person than these two unhappy people are. Their to stupid to know that these kids that witnessed this are their latest victims.

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