Intimate Lives of My Girl Friends

Comment by Dal Maxwell on May 30, 2012 at 4:04pm

Janell - Even though you haven't shared/spilled any details, how do you think your friends would feel knowing you are making posts such as this?  We ALL become privvy to something that was denied to us 'before' but (in my opinion) the way to foster that kind of relationship is to not sesnationalize it, or step right up to the line.

The thing that makes it special is when we become trusted enough to be invited into that circle, and to use it as a personal milestone just seems to cheapen the whole thing.  (still just my opinion).  I count many shared personal stories by women I call friends and the reason that continues, I'm guessing, is they understand that my own path led me away from my circumstances of birth and I cherish those relationships and would never do anything to violate them.

Comment by Galina Edwards on May 30, 2012 at 5:21pm

Yes Janell and it only gets better.  Before and after GRS women would open up to me. Yes we carry the secrets of friends and family.  We will maintain thier confidence.  It is like when I was an AIDS counselor in the Army, you can talk in gerneral terms just don't mention names.

LOL, I know where are the bodies are buried and not one else can have that information. So is the trust my friends have in me. And you too!

Comment by HELEN BRADY on May 30, 2012 at 5:52pm

I have often been surprised by the intimate details of their lives my gg friends confide to me, and even ask my advice on. Of course, I am always bound by confidentiality, never a gossip, as are they when I confide in them.

Only about 4 know I am not a gg.

Comment by Caroline Grace on May 30, 2012 at 6:15pm

You revealed nothing of a personal nature about anyone, so I believe your post is totally appropriate. I also think that you have proven to those who transitioned wioth you the following:

1) you understand a person's need for privacy

2) You definitely know how to keep a secret. Your life is probably all the proof they need here.

3) You have trusted them with your deepest and darkest secret. People of strong character do respect and honor that kind of disclosure.

4) Lastly, people definitely respect the commitment to self that TS people show. We are willing to endure and scarifice much for the chance to be happier without ever being selfish. It is a balancing act we do fairly well, though in reality most of us shortchange ourselves. This level of commitment to things we need without being stingy or self-absorbed is honestly appreciated.

You should celebrate their trust. I will also say it has happened to me, too.  Since I have been thinking about this, I have wondered if most women do this with any other woman or just with select friends?  I suspect it is the latter.

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