I'm still here and I have questions...

Comment by Erin Detty on September 27, 2012 at 2:43pm

I don't live anywhere near you so I have no suggestions on where to go, just be you, that's the best you can do. Its great that you are so supportive that's a lot right there. I can't really think of much more past that you can do.

You will never be able to do much more than you are already doing, the rest is up to her,she is soo lucky to have you there.

I think its fun when my daughter and I go out and shop or what ever, its just nice to have someone that close to me that treats me like I feel I should be treated. I'm just glad to hear you care, its always nice to hear someone cares:)    

Comment by Kathy Murdock on September 27, 2012 at 5:45pm

WOW, you are really special, one in a million! Ok try to avoid crowds and keep your distance from other people as much as possible, this will come later. Try to avoid old women and young girls, they can be cruel and seem to be extra observant. Also try to avoid groups of men, especially those with cowboy hats or bald heads wearing tall boots with lots of chains. Avoid news camera crews.  Police aren’t bad but they drive up the fear factor the first few times, just don’t rob no banks (it’s hard to run in heals). Just keep talking and reassure him, somebody starts to ask him a question jump in and answer it for him (my wife always did that regardless). He has to take the attitude like he has done this all his life, and no one even cares he exists.  Try to envision everybody else is naked, no I’m sorry that’s my fear of public speaking pep talk, heck maybe it will work for this also. Seriously make sure he looks presentable, the biggest thing is mental preparation.  It gets easier and more exciting each time.  Sometimes the fear drives up the excitement.  Just go to a safe area and everything will be fine.  Something that also helps is be prepared for the worst thing you can imagine and how you will respond, I guarantee it won’t happen.  If you go to a restaurant choose one with dim lighting, it's more romantic and it relieves some of the stress. If he uses the ladies room go with him!  You are fantastic, you will have so much fun!

Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on September 27, 2012 at 6:01pm

Megan, I find it inspiring and awesome that you are supporting your spouse.

Comment by Jenn on September 27, 2012 at 8:09pm

Megan you are a charm to do this for you sweetie.  

You should both dress to the nines and go to a high end steak house.  There are lots of great places.  Ruth's Christ in KC, MO is a great place to go.  You can make a reservation through Open Table and get ratings on your restaurant selections.   Wherever you go, plan to spend some money and tip your server well.  Going high end, they will treat you like the ladies you are.  It will be a delightful and confirming experience.  

I was in KC, Kansas a few months ago and dined with a TS girl friend of some 25 years.  We had a lovely time together as I'm sure you and your sweetie will.  

Hugs, Jennifer

Comment by Rachel King on September 28, 2012 at 8:29am

So, I press "Add Comment" and the first paragraph has disappeared.

I am a serious worry when it comes to computers, sigh.......

Take 2,

My first steps into the world, once upon a long time ago, at least 6 of them, was to a work colleague's house party. 

She was my Boss and the crowd was 50/50 who knew me and the balance her husbands friends.

In my nervousness, I had more than I should have to drink but I didn't say or do anything to embarrass myself, maybe....... but what I remember forever more, was the ease with which my friends at that party treated me.

And because my friends treated me with respect and as another there enjoying themself, the rest followed that lead.

The pic of that night is still on my FB page and I was a bloke in a cloak, well a dress anyways but that doesn't rhyme.

It was like, who I was, was the most natural thing to them and it was from this start that my transition began in earnest and that is the key to how you should approach the night out for the two of you.

Be natural, be yourselves and mostly don't be self-conscious together.

It'll be, what it wants to be.

Have fun and my heartfelt congratulations on another beautiful woman who can see beyond others prejudices and love another for the person within.

My Thai wife, Mai, is another and I fully appreciate the love you feel and the way you show it. 

Comment by Janet Miller on September 28, 2012 at 4:29pm

Hi Megan,

What a wonderful thing to do for her.  A date night can be so much fun, so just go with your hearts and don't let anything spoil your fun.  Help her dress appropriately for her age and where you will be going.  A dress and heels always makes me feel more feminine.  Help her with her makeup and Mindy and I always like to do a mani and pedi for each other when we dress up for a special evening out.  If you want to order for her, you can but remember that your waiter or waitress is going to want a good tip so I would just do whatever comes naturally.

If you have to wait for a table, have a glass of wine or a cocktail at the bar while you wait.  You can chat and sip your drinks and be more comfortable there than waiting anywhere else. 

I just know you will both love it to be out and about as a couple of girls.  Let us know where you go and how much fun you had.

Hugs,

Janet

Comment by Megan Strickland on September 29, 2012 at 10:42am

Thank you guys so much, it means so much to me to hear all your sweet comments and suggestions. I will definatly let you all know how it goes, I think we are just going to stick to getting some drinks somewhere.

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