I just want to say hello to everone as a new member of Pink Essence. About me; I'm a post-op trans woman and I enjoy life tremendously living my life as my authentic self. That being said I think there are a few steps that remain to be completed for my transition to be truly complete.
1. Mannerisms: Allot of women tell me that I look like a woman but my mannerisms give me away, i.e. I am not effeminate. For a period of time I thought it was my voice that gave me away but most women insist that it is my mannerisms that give me away. As such I need to work on my mannerisms and I would greatly appreciate help and suggestions on that topic.
- On a side note I recently met a woman whom I am now seeing. When she met me she had no idea that I was trans....she just thought I was a lesbian with a raspy voice!
That being said it is true that I am a lesbian and I don't mind being "read" in "that way" but I know that my mannerisms still need some work for me to be fully accepted as a woman.
2. My voice; my voice remains unchanged. I have done voice therapy and I have acheived limited success in feminizing my voice. I am strongly considering surgery to change my voice...I know that it's risky but to me the rewards outweight the risk. There is a surgeon in Vancouver that does "conventional" vocal surgery where the vocal chords are manually adjusted to acheive a female voice. A trans-woman friend of mine had this surgery and her voice sounds completely female!
I would like to conclude by saying that I welcome the opinions of other people and I hope that this blog entry will be the start of a wonderful conversation in completing my transition.