"We are One"

Earlier today I went shopping at a local home improvement store. As I walked in the parking lot to the store entrance, a group of three 20-30 something year old men were leaving.  About 20 yards away, one of the men sees me and shouts : Big Man ! ....Big Man !..... Big Man !  (It was as if he had never seen a person over 6 ft. before)  I  just smiled in acknowledgment and kept walking without saying anything.  I am not surprised by such comments, since I have been 6' 6" tall most of my life and I am used to them.

I was not offended when it happened because I was not wearing make-up and carrying a purse. I was wearing jeans and an over sized sweater. I like to think that I was dressed gender neutral.   After I have my FFS and I dress more feminine, I hope my reaction will be the same as today's, in a similar situation.  I'm expecting to be called "Sir" by some people, regardless of my feminine appearance, simply because of my height.  I have heard stories about many tall genetic females being called by the wrong gender pronoun because they happen to be tall.

My best friend said that  I would be called "Sir" occasionally after my surgery.   I feel prepared for the times it will happen.  I refuse to let people mistaking me for the wrong gender to get me angry or depressed.

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Comment by Eileen Monte on January 23, 2012 at 4:09pm

Tina, I love your attitude.  I think that tall women are beautiful.


Comment by Paula Prizlupsky on January 23, 2012 at 6:02pm

Not at all. People will think of you as just a unusually tall woman.Not a Man....Paula

Comment by Jenn on January 24, 2012 at 10:54am

Hi Tina.

There are some things about our anatomy that are almost impossible to change.  Height is one that we have to live with.  Can we turn it to our advantage?  I've blogged several times on being tall.  So I won't repeat myself, check my blog archives here at PE.  My latest was "Why Tall Women Are Like a Lambroghini."  It comes from a tall girl website "Amazonia."  Yes tall genetic girls get "sired" too.  

Hugs, Jennifer

Comment by Stephanie Audrey BT on January 24, 2012 at 11:03am

I am 6 foot 2 inches tall and that's without my usual 4-5 inch heels that i wear every day outside

Tall women are indeed beautiful and thankfully I have never been called sir or what not. like my partner says to me.."Strut your stuff hun as you are beautiful and have the height to enjoy it!" My partner is right, whether we are 6 foot or 6 foot 9 Hold your head up high as you are beautiful and a tall woman is also a confident/powerful woman that men so many time fantasize about. Don't worry about a few ignorant males, there are plenty of tall woman in the world you know :D

Comment by Jillian Munsell on January 24, 2012 at 5:44pm

Hi Tina..I too am over six ft and troubled constantly by my height..( I cringe when peopel tell me Im a really tall guy!

I wrote about it in my blog a time ago, which centered on a site I found which is dedicated to tall women.

It is a fairly well done collection of information in support of women who are taller than 'average'. I visit it when I need my spirit filled because its been depleted by being 'too tall' in my own mind. I hope it helps you also.


It is a fairly well done collection of information in support of women who are taller than 'average'. Being 6' 2 myself, I have always heard my inner voice tell me that I'm too tall to ever transition. My height has been one of the things I have always resented and kept me from seriously considering a transition many years ago..

This site is encouraging to all the tall girls out there who struggle with their height.

Comment by Tina Davis on January 24, 2012 at 7:19pm

Thank you for the link, Jillian.  I have been to the site in the past and I should visit more often. It also makes me feel better when I see all the tall females there. It's a comfort to know that we are not alone and there are many girls over 6 ft. tall in the world. I had that same inner voice tell me I was too tall, I'll never pass. After seeing the women on that site, I knew there was no such thing as being too tall !

Comment by Tina Davis on January 25, 2012 at 1:55pm

Thank you for the comments, Susan.  I hope my blog didn't give everyone the impression that I was angry at the man who said "Big man" to me. Perhaps I would have been a little upset if I had been presenting myself totally as a female. He was not trying to be insulting to me. He said it in a way that he was just pointing out to his friends that I was a big man. The same excited way that a small boy would point out to his parent when he sees a "Fire Truck !".  My smile as I walked away was genuine.  I thought  to myself, "If he only knew ......... ".

There was a time when I wished there was a surgery that could make me a foot shorter. (and still be able to walk in heels.)     In the last few years I had come to accept my height or I might not have started my transition at all.      I love who I am and I love myself more and more as I continue on my journey.




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