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Comment by Allison Elizabeth on August 7, 2012 at 4:06pm

Hello Larisa,

I can relate to how you feel. Due to circumstances there is no way I could even think about transitioning myself. And MANY times I have felt like a second class citizen around some of our TG sisters who have already transitioned or who were able to get out more than I have and therefore looked much more feminine than me. I wish I had an answer or a piece of good advice for you but I deal with the same issues. Maybe it helps you to know you're not alone. Meanwhile, I will be praying for you as well. Maybe things will get brighter soon. Write anytime you wish. If nothing else, I can at least lend a sympathetic ear.

Allison

Comment by Brittany C. on August 8, 2012 at 2:36am

Larisa, I just wanted to send you some hugs.  What makes you a girl is not what is or isnt between your legs.  Its what you feel and know inside.  If you ever want to talk I am more than willing.

Comment by Julia on August 8, 2012 at 6:40am

Dear Larisa,

I send you my hugs and would like to hold you just like good friends do if I could, but I just can do it with my thoughts and hope you can feel it. I can feel how you actually think and whats moving you inside, but please never have doubts if your way was right or if you are at a point without hope!

When we all start our way to become ourselves, some of us may be happy and go their way in a shorter time, while others may have a longer and winded road to go, not knowing where the next step may lead to!

I had to learn for myself, when I started with hormones 14 months ago that apart from my physical changes with my body also may feelings and emotions have changed and I first had to deal with this to feel now happy about this wonderful changes in my life and thinking. Otherwise I know - as I'm not out yet to the public - that my hardest parts of this way are still ahead of me. The time as "girl in hell" as you wrote, is also waiting for me and I don't know when and for how long! But I've also learned that all ways we have to go have an aim and so also you should just look for this aim however winded this road yet might be for you!

It will be probably just in a few years that I can think and plan my grs in detail, but just think how gg grow up: They also have to learn in their time as children and teens what it means to be a girl, to be female. Just as we start the same - or better a similar - way as adults can't mean that we know everything about the things expecting us on our way to womanhood. If you want, I'll stay on your side in my thoughts and walk this way with you as we both have the same way - however far away we may life in our countries!

Love & many hugs for you and just my best wishes!

Yours Julia      

Comment by Melanie Cee on August 8, 2012 at 3:10pm

Sad to see anyone in such a dark place. Unfortunately some want to make transition a competition. Not much else to add that hasn't been said below except I visit a friend in Kent several times throughout the month  if you would like to talk over coffee of lunch sometime. Best for me is Thurs or Fri.I return home on Sunday but usually late evening.

Comment by Erin Detty on August 9, 2012 at 8:31pm

It hurts me so bad to see someone so sad, I wish I knew what to say, tomorrow is another day don't let these people get to you. I didn't in all reality have that many real friend before I transitioned, there are a few I stopped talking to because all they wanted to do was guilt me for being me. Stand up and tell those that you thought were your friends to fly a kite and "try" to ignore those jerks at work. Stay Private at work, don't explain yourself its not necessary, everything takes time, give yourself as much as you need. Things will get better we all have been in a bad place, it dose get better.     

Comment by Misty Hatch on August 13, 2012 at 12:06am

I don't have GRS Cause I can't afford it and the ones who make me feel I'm not a true Trans woman because of this are not my friends. It doesn't bother me that they are not my friends. I don't put up with that kind of BS. You shouldn't let that get you down. Be happy with who you are. I to use to get upset and thought I was less than cause I didn't or can't afford GRS. Your true frinds will accept you GRS or not

Comment by Jennifer Sandoval on August 13, 2012 at 1:47pm

i agree with all the girls on here, dont let anyone put u down. just know that your a beutiful woman and hopefully that should be enough. The ones that say your not a woman because you havent  had grs are not your friends.

 

Comment by Kathryn Taylor on August 13, 2012 at 1:59pm

Please don't let others bring you down, certainly not over this issue.  It doesn't sound like they are much in the way of friends either.  HUGGG

Comment by Davina E. Theriaque on August 30, 2012 at 1:34pm

Aw  hang in there, please. I know your depressed but. at least you have the courage to be who you are. And have made some steps to be you. I have no money for surgery either, I'd love to have my nose fixed, maybe breasts done. And maybe fix my hairline and eventually grs. BUT Im here and if you would like to be my friend Id love to chat some more. I would like to be your friend.

 Sincerily Davina

 

Comment by Rabecka Salisbury on August 30, 2012 at 5:33pm

Larisa,

Don't be depressed. There a lot of other girls here in WA that would love to be your friend. I know I would. Hang in there things always get better over time. Any girl who teases you or taunts you with I have had surgery and you haven't is still acting like a conceded man. 

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