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Cross Dressing
I'm new to this, so please bear with me. When I say new, I mean this blogging thing. I've been a cross dresser since as long as I can remember. Lately I've been doing it a lot more, seeking out help on line, which is how I found PE. I bought my first wig and experimenting with makeup, as you can see. I've gone for weeks and sometimes months without the urge to dress. Then when I slip on some nylons and a dress, I get the feeling of relaxation and normalcy, despite the "abnormal" some might say behavior. My wife doesn't support this so I keep it from her, we have other issues as well. I work in a male dominated proffession, so everywhere I turn there is something holding me back from something I love to do. I recently went to payless and was lucky enough to find a pair of heels that fit. It was just before Haloween, so that was a good cover story. The sales girl was helpful and it didn't really phase her like I thought it would. I've only bought dresses on line, but would love to find a TG friendly store to shop and try things on. I have yet to venture out dressed en femme, but I feel the need to becoming stronger and stronger. I thing I can pass if I work on the makeup a little more. I've heard the only difference between a cross dresser and a trans gender, is about three years. I'm starting to believe it but still not convinced 100 %.
Anyway, thanks for letting me ramble. I see a lot of discussions here for TG, but not much on stricly CD issues, so I hope this get some discussion going, as I find it very theraputic.
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Comment by Justine-Paula Robilliard on November 22, 2010 at 2:29pm -
Hi Jodie
I am not sure I follow the idea about 3 years? From what I know, I am TS, mtf, I have heard that there is an idea that if you "crossdress" before puberty you are TS, if you start later you are CD, but I dont buy that idea, I think it is all about how you see yourself, I am more in favour of self diagnosis, and anyway why does it matter, cd or ts or tg, why the use of labels??
What you are is special, you are you and it matters not what you are? Be happy and that is all that matters...
Justine-Paula
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Comment by Caroline Grace on November 22, 2010 at 4:26pm
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Those shoes you bought at Payless come in different styles because we can all walk different paths... Find your own path that fits you well. Just like finding a pair of shoes that fit right. When you pick the right one you will know it fits...
There are crossdressers and transgendered people and a whole lot of other variations in between... Seek professional help in sorting it all out... Transition is tough and not for the faint hearted. It is also far more possible than one could ever imagine; we live in an age of miracles. But the costs are not what most people will want to tackle. If oyu can live beinga a part-time person without severe effects on your life or your health, I'd say do that rather than think of switching genders. It's more than a full time job for years to come if you change plus you have so many relationship changes to manage.
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Comment by Lauren Elisabeth Tancyus on November 22, 2010 at 9:34pm
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Hi Jodi! Sounds like when I first thought about transitioning.
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Hi Brandi, I'm wondering what sensitivities bothered you about the exchange between Annah and Jodi? I would like to hear about your insights.
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Comment by Justine-Paula Robilliard on November 23, 2010 at 1:11am
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What is this with the 3 years? I dont understand what does 3 years to do with TS or CD? I have to admit this is the 1st I have heard of 3 years? I am thinking the 3 years could be the difference between pre-puberty vs post puberty??? Please explain....
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Comment by Jodie Faux on November 23, 2010 at 10:15pm -
Wow, thanks for all of the feedback. The 3 years is not meant to be sarcastic. I've heard it as a kind of humorous insight, in that it's only a matter of time before you cross dress and then transition. It was not meant to be mean, or start any arguments. I respect everyone's individual decision wether to just dress or transition.
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Comment by Jodie Faux on January 31, 2011 at 11:02pm
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Rita thanks, at this stage in the game I am crossdressing, I guess becuase I am still male????
Cyndi, thanks for the advice. Not sure what Temps is. I do need to get out and explore. Not sure either about dressing up and getting nasty, but hey who am I to rule that out? LOL
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Comment by Rhonda Lee on May 3, 2011 at 1:18pm -
Like you, I was in the closet for decades. I had nothing but lingerie, nothing that would qualify as a "wardrobe", never made up or tried on heels, and no desire to do more than eradicate something I thought embarrassing and abnormal. Wife discovered and was not accepting. She left me 2 years ago (for unrelated reasons), giving me a chance to explore my fem side. I was lucky to discover Tri-Ess, which focuses on support to cross-dressers and significant others rather than the broader TG community. I think they are strong in your area and worth a visit. Go to the Tri-Ess website for info. As I had no clothes, no makeup knowledge, and was sure I could not pass as female, I found a dressing service... a lady who made me up, dressed me and (without my expecting it) took me out. I was truly amazed I could pass effectively. Had I planned going out I would have lacked courage, but being literally pushed out the door was the best experience of my life. I have made great friends in Tri-Ess and moved into the broader community, getting to know trans-sexuals, confidently going out in public, and becoming very happy with who I am. My wife is now understands my need, is accomodating and we can talk freely. I hope you will take the plunge. You won't likely regret it. For more, please refer to my blog.
Rhonda
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