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Comment by Galina Edwards on July 12, 2012 at 7:08pm

LOL, it happen more than one would think.  It makes one want to give up, but wait.  A blog is your thoughts and feelings and some even ask for real advice then ignore it.

So as I mom says, just don't worry about it. BTW I read your blogs.

Comment by HELEN BRADY on July 12, 2012 at 8:39pm

WAIT!!!! Isn't the sun really blue?

I will say my piece not that it will likely help you, I think there must be 100's? of ways for us to feel sexual attraction. I was never a gay man (actually I was NEVER a real man, anyway!) and was always attracted to females. I admit I had some male experiences including being made to give oral by my stepfather, and a few voluntary anal receptions. But now, 5yrs full time, I am inclined to think I may be bi in my attractions....Like Vin Diesel and Brad Pitt (only as a blonde!).  I am and have been asexual for 7 yrs now.

Comment by Rachel King on July 13, 2012 at 7:46am

If most think like I do, what would a male physch know about how a trans woman feels?

Sweet bugger all, that's what.

As I recall, what was said about your physch was that you would do better without him.

A therapist who has considerable knowledge about trans people and their feelings has got to be a lot better than a physch who is looking for reasons why you need to spend more of your hard earned to line his pockets.

Ones sexuality should be a fluid thing and also a personal thing and I doubt you will find the answers in anybody's answer to either blogs you refer to.

Just as this is my opinion, so is it theirs when they answer.

You want hard and fast answers but there really aren't any.

We live and we learn and we become the person we choose to become.

Take all the advice including so-called professional, on board and learn from it, but know that there is no magic wand, only trial and error in life, in finding whats best for you.

That's the bottom line.

And Helen," Blue skies, smiling at me, nothing but blue skies, do I see............"

Comment by Claire Bargo on July 16, 2012 at 7:34am

Everyone reacts differently. I have lost sex drive and my sexuality has changed constantly

Comment by Erin Detty on July 16, 2012 at 1:53pm

Confused, Like what you like, my answers to this is always the same as far as sex goes, Asexual. Didn't you say you were Bi? if so, sounds good to me:) My therapist asked me what I felt my sexual orientation is now that I've been on  HRT,  I told her it hasn't changed. I;m not sure what Blog or Blogs your speaking of but I do try hard to give my most honest answers so being consistent is never a problem. There are somethings I choose to keep private, because of that there are somethings I won't reply to, I'm sure most girls here are doing the same. We learn over time        

Comment by Danica Athena on July 16, 2012 at 6:10pm

Tedie , I never have said I am bi ! I have made reference to the fact my loving wife is but not me !  the other blog I refer to as being contradicting was "sexual changes ". or "sexual Challenges" something along those lines . it has been one that was posted a week or 2 ago and well , ya . I asked more or less why was I more or less told to expect a change in partner likes n dis likes but everyone who posted said uh no it's all upto you on if you still want to like females or males or both even ! but yet the other blog ppl are all saying yup it sure did change for me. ! I am just tired of ppl trying to sugar coating awnsers . 

Comment by Erin Detty on July 16, 2012 at 7:56pm

Sorry I got confused myself, I just wouldn't want to say one thing and than another, maybe some people do change that quickly, wouldn't that be something, talk about being fluid. I think most people here do try to be helpful, it may not come out the way they mean it to and or might not really understand the question or get caught up in thought, that just a few words provoked,  I've been guilty of all that myself. Maybe they are confused themselves, anyway I hope I didn't offend you. There has been times I have let my emotions get away from me and wished I had written something a bit differently:)     

Comment by Rachel King on July 17, 2012 at 7:17am

The bottom line being girls, it doesn't really matter squat what someone else thinks of your perceived problem or your stated answer in a blog.

We are what we are and if there is one thing a trans woman should learn and learn damn quickly, it is we must be fluid because there can often be something that comes up in our lives that requires that fluidity and that includes our sexuality but more likely, how we express our sensuality.

So for heavens sake, stop looking for whats not there, what was there, or what might be there, this is cyber talk, not our reality in life.

The only reality from here, is the friends that we make.

I'm a bit like Tedie, in that I desperately want to believe that what is written is honest and true but unfortunately, so often it's not, it's a figment of someones sad imagination.

I also desperately want people who are coming into their transition time, like you Danica, to be able to get honest and true life experiences, which they so often get, yet I still read of obvious fictions and it's so hard to not challenge these fraudsI

The troll is alive and kicking on Pe, kicking people in the teeth, so please, please don't be upset at a comment, it is a cyber-comment, no more and no less and please, please, read others profiles and if they are not open about themselves( within a secure framework, of course) in that profile, then treat them with caution.

That's my sage advice for this week, girls, love it or ignore it, at the end of the day, as always, it's now your choice, no one elses.

It's time to take back your mojo, for you, not for someone else.

You deserve it because you are trans and you are proud.

Comment by Jodie Jones on July 19, 2012 at 7:57pm

You must look inward, Brooke.  There is no other choice.  Your therapist, your Doc, your priest, people who leave comments here - none of them know what is in your head and heart.  This is not an IKEA kit situation with badly trans-lated instructions (pun intended).  That's my two cents.  Rachel said it better down below (what else is new??  ;-)

Comment by Caroline Grace on July 20, 2012 at 7:39am

Jodie said perfectly. Look within and don't judge yourself harshly. Look for truth andf act with integrity and self-love.

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