Coming out

It has been kind of a tough few weeks as I have been coming out to a few friends. It hasn't been intentional but I'm starting to get a lot of questions. I couldn't lie and I didn't want to give anyone falls impressions. It wasn't easy and did get slightly easier tht was up until today. My wife called me., I said hello. She said "we have a problem" She proceeds to tell me that her brother had texted her wanting to know what was going on with me. I had posted a fun little post about myself and my gf's and the weekend we had with shopping going out and just dong girl things. Well I guess the dots started to get connected. 

My wife wanted to know how to respond to him., I told her let me think a few minutes. I decided within a minute to just open up and let it all out. If he hated me so be it. One of my gf kept saying it will be ok. Your married to his sister and he probably just concerned as not knowing. I texted him saying my wife said he wanted to know what was up and I needed to talk to him right after work. I told him it would be difficult and to please keep an open mind.

My coming out to him went so much better than I could have ever thought possible. 

He pulled up behind me in front of the house seconds after I got there. I was so nervous, I opened up my door and almost knocked over a bicyclist. He offered me a drink before we started the chat and I gladly accepted. I figure why beat around the bush. I brought a box of tissues in with me as I knew I would need them. I got out the words "I'm transgendered" and the flood gates opened and I cried my heart out. He came over hugged me and said it's alright and that he loved me.

That made me feel a lot better and we had a good long talk. He has questions and I told him what I could as there are lots of questions I still have myself. His major concern was for his sister, my wife. I assured him that no matter what she was the number one priority in my life. He saw that from the tears and my sincerity, that I was being truthfully honest with him. He asked if there was information on the web as he wanted to understand a bit more and I told him I would send him some links as I was glad he wanted to know. We laughed about a lot of things afterwards as we were talking about different aspects of how I feel. 

Soon it was time for me to go and I know there will be more questions as things sink in. He asked "Should I call you Patti from now on". That was touching and I told him he could call me either and what he felt comfortable with.