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CHOCOLATE!

Hi Everyone:

This is kind of a survey. I've discmoussed this with a number of men and women, both of which were natal and trans, and have come to the conclusion that chocolate 'appreciation', if you will, is a female thing. I know I have it. One night at a friend's performance, I got up to try some chocolate that a friend brought. The man I was sitting next to said "It doesn't work for me." to which I responded, "It does for me: it's a woman thing." About a month ago, I experienced what I can only describe as my second "chocolate orgasm." The chocolate was so good that it tickled and aroused me all the way from my lips, via the tip of my tongue, down my throat and into my stomach. I could feel the 'sensual nature' of the chocolate. I experienced this once before, in Paris, as male, when eating a remarkable cake made from chocolate mousse, solid chocolate on the outside, chocolate cake, and rasberries. The second time was at a local restaurant, here in Athens - again, a sensual dessert. The man I was with didn't understand. All I could say was, "Stop talking to me. I can't pay attention. It's tickling too much. It"s a chocolate orgasm." I saw the photos he took of me, and my face showed pure pleasure (I don't have these, unfortunately).

Several natal women and transwomen with whom I've spoken have experienced this chocolate orgasm, and in every case, it was really good chocolate. I am curious if any of you have had this experience.

The upshot here is that I'm wondering, "Have any of you had any kind of sensual experience with chocolate?", "Was it when you were living as female or male?" and "Are you willing to share it here?"

Thank you in advance to those of you willing to step forward. I know it's trivial, but I've been wondering about this for a long time.

Hugs,

Janine

Tags: Chocolate., Differences, and, between, men, women

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Comment by Kristi L on July 22, 2010 at 3:23pm: I cannot think of a more pleasurable food than pure chocolate. I find that I do often crave it but for me in the pure form preferably dark without anything mixed in with it. The stronger the better. I cannot call it orgasmic but it certainly has the most wonderful sensation. I feel the one must only truly a female inside. Yes truly a female craving.

Comment by Christina Huffman on July 22, 2010 at 3:38pm: I must be an oddball, then. I have never really liked chocolate - I was always the kid who wanted vanilla when everyone else wanted chocolate. I can eat chocolate in smaller amounts but it doesn't do much for me. If some chocolate dessert like cake becomes too rich, I can barely eat it. What chocoholics around me consider absolute blasphemy is that I hate fudge - it's not the taste so much, but the texture that bothers me.

For me, the most pleasurable flavors that I intensely crave and that give me such wonderful sensations are fruits from the rose family, especially cherries, peaches, strawberries, raspberries, and almonds. Especially almonds - omg, I'm addicted to pastries with almond paste like bear claws and almond croissants!

Before you say that proves I must be a man at heart, my mother has almost the exact same tastes. However, there may still be an overall pattern with higher chocolate preference among women - it's just important to realize there are always exceptions to these rules.

Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on July 22, 2010 at 3:56pm: I can't say I have had a chocolate O but I do love good dark chocolate as I keep Ghirardelli on hand at all times.

Comment by Carole Hill on July 22, 2010 at 6:27pm: IMHO it is not a "female" thing - it is a "chocolate lover's thing"!

Comment by carman on July 23, 2010 at 9:56am: coco's makes a chocolate strawberry pie thats to die for!.large sensual strawberrys on top of a dark chocolate cream pie with oreo cookie crust.ok i'm out of here going to coco's

Comment by Janine Elyse Aronson on July 23, 2010 at 8:30pm: A good start so far. I didn't mean to imply that not loving chocolate was a male trait - just that it seems that women typically (not always)respond differently and 'warmer' to chocolate than men. I'd like to hear more and from more of us. I love the darkest chocolates, too. I've even tried the 99%. I've only had the Big O twice from the cake/mousse combinations. The regular chocolates (dark - a mix of chocolate and brown sugar only) work for me a little. It's a deep pleasure, but not the Big O. I'm willing to keep trying. I certainly must get back to Mama's Boy here in town and have more of that Chocolate Cake. Yummmmmm.

Comment by Christina Huffman on July 23, 2010 at 10:05pm: I've heard there might be some biological basis for this, but I don't remember what it is off the top of my head. It's similar to why some people, especially women, crave chocolate when they're unhappy or depressed - there's a chemical in it that can act like an antidepressant. I'll try and look it up, because this is ringing a bell.

Comment by Janine Elyse Aronson on July 25, 2010 at 3:35pm: Hmmm. Might be. I've heard that in the Western world, mostly the U.S. and England, we crave sweets, while in Asia it is rice, and in places like Italy it's pasta. These complex carbohydrates are what we crave. And, it may be because of our seratonin levels that are sinking at the time. I believe that a lot of comfort foods are complex carbohydrates; they certainly tend to be rich and add calories. Here is something I just found:

"Chocolate can affect the brain by causing the release of certain neurotransmitters. Neurotransmitters are the molecules that transmit signals between neurons. The amounts of particular neurotransmitters we have at any given time can have a great impact on our mood. Happy neurotransmitters such as endorphins and other opiates can help to reduce stress and lead to feelings of euphoria. As connections between neurons, they are released from the pre-synaptic membrane and travel across the synaptic clef to react with receptors in the post-synaptic membrane. Receptors are specified to react with particular molecules which can trigger different responses in the connected neurons. The proper neurotransmitter can trigger certain emotions."

"Chocolate has a long history associated with feelings of well being. It has been favored by people ranging from the ancient Aztecs to high society Victorians to Popes. Chocolate also has a history of being a known aphrodisiac..."

Chocolate apparently has stress reducing properties. Look at her references.

(All Direct Quotes are from: "Chocolate on the Brain" by Kristen Coveleskie, in her student paper at Bryn Mawr College, at http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro04/web1/kcoveleskie.html)

On the other hand I'm talking about chocolate to the extreme. I find that the "Chocolate Orgasm" goes well beyond any notion of calming or feeling good. The Chocolate O is pure extacy!

Comment by Janine Elyse Aronson on August 1, 2010 at 2:37pm: I had this discussion about the Chocolate O with a close female friend and a new male friend last night around a campfire (unusual in the hot Georgia summer - yes). She had never had one, but knew about them. He had read that women are more responsive to chocolate because women tend to be better at identifying the signs when we experience sensuality. There was more; this seemed most relevant.

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