A Night of Deep thought

Comment by Megan Strickland on August 1, 2012 at 5:34pm

Donna you are very brave to have told your loved ones knowing they would not accept it. I know it had to be a very scary and sad thing for you to go through. I know this doesn't make you miss them less but the ones that stuck around are the ones that were meant to be in your life. I hope that one day the rest of your family will be able to look past the physical apperance and love you for who you are inside but if not just try and enjoy those that have. Congratulations on your continuing journey to true peace and happiness. I hope that my Elaina will be able to do the same thing pretty soon. She is so scared knowing that the ones she loves so much wont accept her. As hard as it was for me to tell my family, I know it has to be twice as hard for her. Thats why I don't push her and let her do it in her time.

Comment by HELEN BRADY on August 1, 2012 at 7:21pm

You have my best wishes and sympathy for those you have lost. My ex just cannot handle seeing me in person as a woman, but she talks to me on the phone. Everyone else just accepts me for me, even my kids. And I dearly miss my mom who passed away before my transition. I think she would embrace the woman I have become.

Comment by Galina Edwards on August 3, 2012 at 11:33am

Donna I feel your pain for I have it too with my daughter and grandchildren.  But, your deep thought has said what we have tried to tell Tgirls.  When a person goes this route they must have the mind set that they may lose everything.  The good news is some of us feel the worse and are really surprised that our friends and families love us enough to accept us.  As you wrote "My heart and soul are still the same even". That is the same thing I told all my friends. 

My prayers are with you and I pray your daughter comes around.

Comment by Donna Marie Hicks on August 3, 2012 at 1:24pm

I would truely like to thank you for your responses they mean the world to me and touches my heart in a special way to know that there are people out there to offer support for those they really don't know but are sisters through life. Megan I wish you the best with Elaina and I hope and pray that she knows how lucky she is to have someone as special as you in her life and I wish you both only the best, Helen I am sorry that uou are having issues with you Ex being able to except and see you as your true self and know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers, And dear sweet Galina thank you for your kind words and you will be in my thought and prayers as well that your daughter will come around and accept you as well much love and huggles to you all muaaaaawwwwhhhh

Comment by stephanie dixon on August 4, 2012 at 5:10am

donna pre opp i was beaten up by my x  very regurally  two months prior to surgery the building colaspes in an earthquake killing my doctors my buniness fails the earthquake freezes up my properities yet i have to pay their morgages then my opperation was four as i did everthing at once and back home i put myself into school with 19 other girls mostly around 18 to 22   now two years post quake i am nearly broke well not quite but this cost alot .

dealing with eqc and insurance for two years and their politics you learn alot .

i still have my kids my ex and me are friends now and i have a f on my pass port but have too wait till may for my birthcert re 2 year divorce .

i still have my moments hope fully next month i will be working again and earning some money and that will help to easy the load yea i did put this on their is people worse than this some loose their house and are homeless the quake has done a good job on me for sure . still some here have nothing left after even that gives an oppatunite to start again and in a new town. at the correct time this could be a great break thru just being you

it is all how we handle it yes i get down depressed and i have stuff i need to work on

positivity   opens doors negativity closes them. 

just be you because you are a great women

steph

Comment by Gretta VanDrezen on August 4, 2012 at 9:47am

We have all been there...some of us are still stuck in limbo fighting with our deep thoughts.  At least you are making progress.  Best of luck and much happiness!

Hugs,

Gretta

Comment by Rachel King on August 4, 2012 at 9:54am

I believe it is important that we grow more beautiful on the inside because we have had to stifle our emotions and our inner self for decades( most of us) so if we were the same, what have we achieved by transitioning?

I look back on the frustrated human being that was me 6 years ago and look at myself today and thank the stars I had the opportunity to be me.

I don't believe there is any way in the whole wide world that I would have the love of my beautiful Thai wife, Mai, pre-hormonal change because the reality is, if I didn't like me, I could hardly think that Mai would have.

The heartache won't diminish Donna, but the acceptance of what will be, will replace it and as you transition further, your life will continue to take on new meaning, new friends who enjoy the person you are, will replace those who are blinded by their ignorance.

It's nice to see people here venting about their feelings but not getting too caught up in the misery that can accompany transition.

My favourite saying of, " only the strong transition," certainly applies here.

We take the good days with the bad days and if the counter is in the black at the end, then we have had a winner.

And, winners are grinners.

 

Comment by Chely Thompson on August 4, 2012 at 5:56pm

omg! Donna I cried reading this! I so would love to give you a hug right now! I have experienced some of the same. You sound like an awesome woman! Thank you for writing that. Hope all is well with you! I would love to chat anytime!

Comment by Marsha M. Marsha on August 6, 2012 at 7:26pm

Donna, I hope this doesn't sound too trite but to quote Yogi Berra, "It ain't over 'till it's over". Those who claim to have rejected you may com around at some point.

I was in New England visiting family last weekend and had a wonderful time with my sister and her husband who both accept me without reservation. My other sister semed to accept me, then stopped communicating with me. She explained to my youngest sister that she was having a difficult time acceptiing me as her sister. Well my youngest sister had a chat with her and while at my mom's she called to speak to me and we had a very nice conversation where she never flubbed my name and it ended with, "I love you Marsha".

Sometimes people just need time. Donna, If you are true to yourself and show love to others, I believe eventually love will be requited.

Hugs

Comment by Caroline Grace on August 6, 2012 at 7:53pm

@Marsha - You just made my week...  thanks for sharing. I believe that one day your sister will come fully around to once again loving you as she should.

Comment