A Day And a Life

Comment by Jenn on May 29, 2012 at 8:50pm

Hi Raven.

I only know you from what you’ve blogged here at Pe, so I can only give you some general thoughts. 

First, please know that we’re here to give you love, encouragement and support as your sisters. 

We are, each of us, dealt the hand that God gave us.  As you get to know us I think you will sense it has made us stronger.  I would encourage you to celebrate that you are you and to thank your parents, as imperfect as they may be, for giving you life.  Now it’s up to you.  Having succeeded in college and having a degree in computer science you are already quite accomplished.  Congratulations.  You may not be in the right place to exercise your degree talents but keep trying.  There is a need for talented and capable people and the internet is your friend in helping you to find that connection.  Network with other TG women.  If you haven't already, check out Lynn Conway's website "Transsexual Women's Successes."  You will be inspired.  There are several computer scientists among these talented women.  

On top of the struggles of growing up, going to school and now trying to find employment in your field, I sense you’re dealing with gender issues as many of us here at Pe are.  Welcome to the club.  I'm sure you realize how impossible it is to convince someone who has never experienced gender incongruence to be sympathetic with your plight.  Again, I say welcome to the club.  A few get it, most don't.  At some point you have to just move on.  

It’s time for you to plan your future.  Much of it is already in place.  Lay it out in your mind.  Make a plan.  Find employment and the economic independence it gives you, make friends, work through your gender issues.  If living life as a woman is the answer to your gender searching, celebrate that you have the education and skills to make it possible.   Now read Lynn Conway's personal biography.  She will inspire you to succeed in life.  

I hope I've been helpful.  In Christian love, your new friend, Jennifer

Comment by Raven Mitchelle Rose on May 31, 2012 at 4:58pm

Ty Very much jennifer we really need to talk further I have the IQ saying that you may help me in some Commion Insight? sound good to you?

 

Comment by Natalia Vega on March 3, 2013 at 9:16am

Raven, you sound young but quite acomplished for your age. You are already way ahead of a lot of transgendered women from my generation by the fact that you have a mountain of information through the internet not afforded to us when we were young. Take advantage of your education and talent and move forward at all cost. Maybe you should try to find your uncle Rodney, he has obviously crossed a lot of bridges already. As a familiy member he can be a great source of support and advise. If you only knew how often I wish I had the internet growing up. Good luck sweetie. Know you have a sister here...ok, ok, maybe a surrogate mom LOL

Comment by Raven Mitchelle Rose on March 3, 2013 at 11:55am

Rodeny is out of the question is much as I love him as a family member I fear is judgment is as clouded as the rest I have had to live with this most of my life, and just recently started being open with few select people...slow and steady wins the race hua?...all of this is a lot more complicated then it seems...like a fine rug and my life the strings that make it...one wrong edit or cut with can cuase oh! so many problems for me specially in this god forsaken town.

 

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