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Black Men!  It is late and this has been on my mind since my female roomie took me to dinner Saturday evening and I was literally clocked at the door by this black guy with his family.  Before I start, I must warn you that I may make somewhat controversial statements about black men.

Some caveats; I have a college degree in sociology, and I know better than to stereotype any group of people.   Moreover, my thoughts are not based on a scientific study or survey, there is not…

http://ning.it/18U1VgC this is a story about one of our sister and she needs support I ask all who are Democrats to join the local woman caucus of the state party. It is time that all find out we are 100% real women.  

To all my trans brothers and sisters who are also parents, I’d like to wish you all a happy Maddy’s Day! Yes, I’m more than well aware that most people in this country tend to cling to the traditional ‘Father’s Day’ moniker, and we all just going to have to be OK with that for now. The likelihood of ever achieving a majority is looking pretty grim, which is probably for the best to be honest. I thought it would be a good time to talk about the whole ‘Maddy’ thing, because seriously, when…

Ladies I think you all know what I am talking about. The one question all of my non trans friends ask is who I date. Of course it blows there minds when I say I am a lesbian. They always say, but you became a woman. This of course all leads to more questions and more answers. It gets old after a while of course, but remains awkward like no tomorrow.

Most of the time I let my friends assume that I date men, but this time it came back to bite me. My friends set me up on a date this past…

(Now this is a story about how my day, dressing up for the first time went, some of it is made up to make to the story intresting. like the 10,000 dollars...lol but Raven is completely real. once you read it you will understand what I mean when I say that. Enjoy)

A new day had started, a Day that my friend  was going to take me out. But little to my knowledge she was not going to take me out, but Raven. Never had a dress up and I was scared even before I was fully aware of my…

I am so excited...I wanted to hug my doctor today as he gave me the letter, we shook hands instead (probably better). 

Thank you to the law makers in California, and the new Social Security rules, and to the Feds for the new Passport rules.... No need to "cut" things off anymore to have the gender marker changed. And the state is going to issue a new birth certificate as well... Kick as@!

yesterday I saw my therapist in a group session (4 of us)

one of us already had a carry letter, (not me)

the rest of us had one before we left. I didn't waste any time. on the way home i stopped at a DMV center and asked to have my gender marker changed. I was told to ask for the manager (by name) and pointed accross the room to a service counter near an office.

opon speaking to the manager i was informed that in Illinois a cort order is required for this. I told him…

Ever feel like a total outsider? No, no, I’m not talking about Pony Boy, Dallas, and a pre-Miyagi Daniel-san and their good time crew. I did grow up loving that movie, even though I better identified with Cherry. At least the Outsiders weren’t really so isolated that they couldn’t hold their own in a stormy night rumble or seduce the two Corey’s into a vampiric lifestyle. There is a chance I’m mixing up boy gang movies here, but they are all pretty much the same anyway, so no…

Yes, I am a father, and will always be a father even though I do not celebrate this special day.  A friend intimated that there is a special kind of hurt when she said that I must have some way of dealing with this occasion, of coping with the loss of my relationship with my children.  She is right. 

She also wondered aloud what feelings my children experienced on this day.  They must think about it - think about me, right?  I don’t know, but I appreciated her conclusion that she…

My province has added coverage for SRS...................Thus a chapter ends and a new one begins..........No date yet......

I am hoping that I will be just fine staying exactly as I am and just adjusting to the reality of life as a gender variant person. The state of flux of my life is coming from not being entirely at ease with the new arrangement and speaking to Helene (my therapist) the other day showed me that my vocabulary is still full of dos and donts.

So the session did reveal some cracks in the foundation.

I also told her that I fundamentally do not believe in the idea of changing sex. In…

I bought Kristen Beck's book today "Warrior Princess".  I started reading it, but decided to save it for next week when I'm recovering.  At the same time and odd juxtaposition seemed to occur.  Here I am a transgender veteran (US Navy 71-77), reading a book by a transgender veteran, and on Monday I am having surgery with yet another transgender veteran (Dr. McGinn)

I had the opportunity to join the United Methodist Yellowstone Annual Conference in Billings, MT this past weekend.  It was a little bit of a retreat for me, with a room full of clergy and wonderful people whom I have grown to love since becoming a member of ST Paul’s, UMC in Helena a few years ago.  We sang songs at morning services and even danced a bit.  And, I sold a few books.

I learned a new phrase too, “biblical obedience.”  When I first heard it, that same old fear came…

Today is my youngest daughters birthday, so I stopped by the house to give her my present. (my ex did know I was going to stop...she is finally lightening up about me being at the house). Thankfully all 3 of my kids were at home, after I gave my daughter her present, my son came out of his bedroom to see me. It has been over 2 yrs since I've seen him in person, the kid has grown....he is as tall as I am and still growing. He is…

I am sure most, if not all of us, have signed petitions, marched in rallies, participated in LGBT festivals and shared all the activity on social media to raise attention for transgender issues. We deal with discrimination, jokes and active hate every day.

How we view a situation though and allowing room for empathy can sometimes make all the difference.

A few days ago I…

 Something holds me back from cutting off the deformity between my legs,I know it's necessary for SRS & I so very much want it. I just don't know if I can hold out, it drives me nuts !

Karma can also be called fate; destiny, predestination, predetermination, lot, kismet. As time goes on I feel more and more it is my destiny to be a woman. This gets stronger as time goes on, and yet I fight it. Why? Should I not just submit to it and save all this angst? Stories abound throughout history of 'heroes' fighting thier destiny, Jesus for one, who asked that 'this cup pass from my lips, if it be thy (God) will'. If God knew me before I was conceived in the womb then he most…