Regarding my wife:
Before we were married I decided she needed to know my secret. I was incredibly nervous. I wrote her a letter and gave it to her as I headed into the bedroom to hide. The letter wasn’t 100% honest. I said I used to like to dress in my sister's and mom's clothes in private when I was in high school but that the practice had "faded". Which was true, I hadn’t dressed to that extent in years, but it implied that the desire was gone. But that was OK. This was a big enough leap of faith for now. I was preparing to lose the most important thing in my life. But she was great. She put her arm around me and said it was no big deal. She still loves me. I was shocked. I asked her if she actually read the letter. She said she was afraid at first that I was breaking it off with her and was relieved that it was "just" this.
She doesnt mind if I paint my nails or do anything else as long as I can undo it . She doesn let me shave my legs since many other "runners" do it, but dreaws the line a piercings and other more permanendt changes.
How I look doesn’t bother her. She hadn’t seen my pictures for a few years and then checked out my flickr profile a year ago and told me she was very impressed. She actually even decided to meet Heidi for the first time in a LONG time. I think she’s a little apprehensive to compliment me too much for fear that I’ll decide to push it further, going out in public and spending more time as Heidi.