"Hi Ashley,
Sometimes we become so overwhelmed with change that occurs while in transition that we build up a heavy load that we shoulder until it becomes unbearable.
I too had to come to the realization that life with my ex spouse was over with when…"
"We are One"
-
Ashley Rea
- Female
- Twentynine Palms, CA
- United States
- Blog Posts (10)
- Discussions
- Events
- Groups (4)
- Photos (1)
- Photo Albums
- Videos
Ashley Rea's Groups
Gifts Received
Ashley Rea has not received any gifts yet
Ashley Rea's Page
Latest Activity
Ashley Rea posted a blog postJeolocies, Decisions, and choices
This is an interesting time in my life.Last weekend I learned that my ex has moved on and has a boyfriend. I did not take this very well. I did not understand why until I talked to a close friend. She explained that this is a "normal" reaction. I NEVER loved my ex. I understand that I unfairly used her to get through the lie I was living. I thought that I would be happy for her to find a guy that will care for her and treat her the way she deserves. He would also be a male role model in…See More
WendyB commented on Ashley Rea's status"Congrats Ashley!!! I remember a feeling of confirmation and validation when I got my letter(s). I know the hoops you had to jump through and the tough therapy it took to get where you are. Pat yourself on the back and go to…"
Janell Elynn Smith commented on Ashley Rea's blog post Just in Time"So, are we all "rushing" to live in California for the second "gold rush" of SRS surgeries?"
Erin Detty commented on Ashley Rea's blog post Just in Time"I wish Ohio would get with the times:) "
Ashley Rea posted a blog postJust in Time
To day is the day that I am officially qualified to be able to have my surgery. At the same time, the great state the I live in (California) told the insurance companies that they cannot deny any medically necessary procedures and this includes SRS.The only thing I need to move forward is to get me letters. I have them being written and I should have them by the end of August. One of my therapists takes a long to to write a letter.What a difference a year makes. At the start of my…See More
Rikki Dubois commented on Ashley Rea's blog post Where has the time gone??"Happy anniversary. It is an exciting time for you. I remember when I came out at work in December 2010. I was truly accepted and got hugs from my whole team; the guys and the girls. I am glad to hear things are going well for you.
Take care, and…"
Nathine Tereana Goldenthal commented on Ashley Rea's blog post Where has the time gone??"Wonderful. Aetna will cover the costs after one year. Unfortunately the feds withdrew a proposal for medicaid and medicare for further study. Which means that insurance carriers will back off.
And I do know one regret we all have. Which we could…"
Profile Information
- I am a:
- Male to Female Transgender Person
- I Express My Gender Variance:
- Full Time (Gender Marker Not Legally Changed)
- My Gender Status is:
- Aspiring Pre-op Transsexual (Completed 100% ALL prescribed requirements and recommendations per WPATH – My GRS date has been delayed due to health or financial reasons but is a goal I continue to work towards)
- I have undergone or been prescribed:
- Hormones, Electrolysis
- Relationship Status:
- Divorced (with Children)
- I am interested in:
- Friends, Dating, Activism, Blogging
- I am NOT interested in:
- Smokers, Drinking
- About My Profession, Skills and Special Training:
- I am computer Analyst and Ham radio operator
- 100 Words About Me:
- My name is Ashley Marie. I am a 40 year old transwoman. I am the father of a 5 year old that is from a 11 year marriage. I am currently going through a divorce and custody battle. My father is also a transwomen.
Ashley Rea's Photos
Ashley Rea's Blog
Jeolocies, Decisions, and choices
Posted on May 27, 2013 at 10:40pm 1 Comment 0 Likes
This is an interesting time in my life.
Last weekend I learned that my ex has moved on and has a boyfriend. I did not take this very well. I did not understand why until I talked to a close friend. She explained that this is a "normal" reaction. I NEVER loved my ex. I understand that I unfairly used her to get through the lie I was living. I thought that I would be happy for her to find a guy that will care for her and treat her the way she deserves. He would also be a male…
Read More Just in Time
Posted on May 3, 2013 at 12:25am 3 Comments 4 Likes
To day is the day that I am officially qualified to be able to have my surgery. At the same time, the great state the I live in (California) told the insurance companies that they cannot deny any medically necessary procedures and this includes SRS.
The only thing I need to move forward is to get me letters. I have them being written and I should have them by the end of August. One of my therapists takes a long to to write a letter.
What a difference a year makes. At the…
Read More Where has the time gone??
Posted on March 30, 2013 at 12:55am 8 Comments 2 Likes
it seems as if it were yesterday. 1 year ago I told my HR department know that I was going to transition to be the true me. They have been fully supportive. They worked with me to develop a plan to inform and educate the people that I work with. I originally said that I would be coming to work around the middle of May, but I could not wait that long and changed it to end of April. They worked to make sure the transition was smooth and did not interfere with the business.
I the…
Read More Ruined weekend
Posted on February 19, 2013 at 12:21am 5 Comments 1 Like
I for one am glad this weekend is over.
I had my son this weekend. I was looking forward to having a great time with my son. When I got to the location that we have been using for months, my ex got out of her car and start yelling at me that she never agreed to the location. I could tell that something was not right in the way she was venting.
The bad thing is that she did this in front of our son and it upset him. I told her that I was starting the process to regain my…
Read MoreComment Wall (8 comments)
- At 9:57am on October 11, 2012,
Adeena Dawn Forrester said… Happy Birthday!!!
- At 2:54am on October 11, 2012,
Julia said…
Dear Ashley,
I wish you a happy birthday and hope you can enjoy your great day! May all your wishes, hopes and dreams come true you have for the new year in your life! Love & many hugs!
Julia
- At 8:58am on September 11, 2012,
Nancy Baker said… Ashley, Thank you for telling us more about your family and your transition. It is such a shame that your (now transitioned) father is the one who is not supportive of your own transition. Good for your mom for being insightful and supportive of you. Congrats on finally being able to sort out your feelings and going ahead with your transition. I hope it will be smooth sailing for you from this point on.
Nancy
- At 5:33am on September 11, 2012,
Caroline Grace said…
The interesting thing about your father saying you hadn't shown any signs. Hindsight is 20-20, but I am willing to bet that everyone I knew would have said the same thing about me - I'd shown no signs. All that meant was I was really good at keeping "The Secret".
I also noted you do something my son does, You say things like, "My father, she..."
Lastly, as a TS parent I know I don'y wish this journey on any of my children as I know how hard and life consuming it can be. Would I push my child to try to avoid transitioning if at all possible? Probably. I am also the aunt of transman and while I am totally accpeting, I also have shared that transition isn't the only option for TG people. Transition can be the right path but a TG person needs to think through all the options before understanding which is the best one for them. So my nephew doesn't get any challenges from me because I know he connected with a support group since I took him to his first one, has spoken to other transmen there and established friendships, has a therapist, and is going through the life meltdown that comes with profound changes in our paths...
And so while I am supportive of him, I hate to see him have to go through the stuff we go through...Yes, being TS sucks enough for me to hate it,,, and yet I still love being me and would never swap being a transwoman for being a cismale, Go figure...
Anyway, welcome to PE. Everyone who writes you here is a real person.. there are no automated response that I canthink of. There are some stock replies and welcomes, but they come from people I hope you will one day meet.
- At 10:26pm on September 10, 2012,
Chloe Prince said… Hi Ashley - Welcome to PINKessence! I'm the founder and would like to extend a warm *hug* and let you know I am here if you should have any questions.
-Chloe
- At 3:57pm on September 10, 2012,
Marsha M. Marsha said… Welcome Ashely to PE It is nice to have a fulltime woman join our compassionate and knowledgeable membership. Take a look at your profile settings and determine how private you would like to make your page. Pink Essence can not guarantee if all settings remain defaulted as viewed by all, that information will stay within this ste. Please peruse the site and become familiar with our many groups and forums which, along with the amazing people, make this the greatest among transgender support support sites
- At 1:14pm on September 10, 2012, Nancy Baker said…
Dear Ashley, That is so interesting that your father is also a transwoman. Did you father transition while you were growing up, or was it after you were and adult? I don't think i have heard of a similar situation before. Would love to hear more about it all.
Nancy
- At 11:23am on September 9, 2012,
PE Administrator said… Hello Ashley!
On behalf of PINKessence, Welcome! We are striving to make this a safe and pleasant place to be.
Be sure to read all our rules in the forum section of the website, particularly on posting photos, before you get started using the site.
Please take a moment to post an introduction of you, and if you haven’t already, please update your profile with a visible face photo.
You can customize your profile page as well by clicking on the modules in the dark purple section and moving them to your desired location. You can also add widgets - give it a try!
It is the responsibility to ALL members to READ and UNDERSTAND the PRIVACY DISCLOSURE NOTICE for PINKessence
and also, please be sure to read our Photo Posting Policy.PINKessence does NOT permit the use or practice of posting links, advertisements or solicitation for other websites unless approved by management. All communications, including email are subject to moderation. Please READ our Policy concerning this HERE.
Have fun! If you have any questions don’t be afraid to ask.
PLEASE NOTE: if your profile picture has been reset with a photo of a "Pe" on it, then please update your photo HERE with a new photo that has been cropped square in size and meets all the sites requirements. No Lingerie, Swimsuit, Nude, Semi Nude or Fetish profile pics will be accepted. In addition, no leg shots or other sexually provocative poses will be accepted either. Profiles left blank with no info or profile pic will be subject for deletion.
Thank you,
PE Administrator
Hits Since 04/01/09
Top Content
Blog Posts
My Black Brothers and LGBT
Posted by sara simone on June 18, 2013 at 9:58am 1 Comment 1 Like
needs our help
Posted by Wendy Ella May on June 17, 2013 at 11:01pm 0 Comments 0 Likes
New meaning of Father's Day
Posted by Carol Corbett on June 16, 2013 at 11:36pm 0 Comments 0 Likes
Happy Maddy's Day! or Trans Father's Day
Posted by Michelle Wolf on June 16, 2013 at 10:10am 1 Comment 2 Likes
That most awkward conversation.
Posted by Rabecka Salisbury on June 16, 2013 at 2:29am 1 Comment 0 Likes
I Will Allways Love You -Raven
Posted by Raven Mitchelle Rose on June 15, 2013 at 11:31am 0 Comments 0 Likes
Another milestone... My name and gender change letter!...
Posted by Breanne Todd on June 15, 2013 at 1:46am 7 Comments 2 Likes
carry letter recieved, GM changed at DMV
Posted by Daphne Anne Blake on June 14, 2013 at 10:47am 3 Comments 0 Likes
Outsiders: When Trans Don't Feel In There Like Swim Wear
Posted by Michelle Wolf on June 14, 2013 at 5:33am 3 Comments 1 Like
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY TO ME
Posted by Roberta Zenker on June 13, 2013 at 11:32am 7 Comments 3 Likes
FInally
Posted by Amy Marie on June 12, 2013 at 11:20pm 2 Comments 2 Likes
My last line of defense?
Posted by Joanna on June 12, 2013 at 7:30am 33 Comments 6 Likes
Warrior Princess
Posted by WendyB on June 10, 2013 at 7:59pm 6 Comments 1 Like
BIBLICAL OBEDIENCE
Posted by Roberta Zenker on June 10, 2013 at 6:45pm 1 Comment 0 Likes
An amazing day........
Posted by Brooke K. on June 10, 2013 at 6:02pm 10 Comments 7 Likes
Activism Light
Posted by Violette Bowhay on June 10, 2013 at 2:00pm 4 Comments 2 Likes
Tolerance is a must in today's society but its still not given. And hate continues to grow.
Posted by Gidget Groendyk on June 9, 2013 at 7:53am 0 Comments 3 Likes
Something holds me in check
Posted by Rebicca Ellen Ray on June 8, 2013 at 11:22pm 1 Comment 1 Like
Is Being Transgender Karma?
Posted by Elle James on June 8, 2013 at 12:30pm 25 Comments 5 Likes
I challenged NetApp (my company) in light of recent decisions.
Posted by Connie Rice on June 7, 2013 at 6:24pm 3 Comments 1 Like
PeWorld Map
© 2013 Created by Chloe Prince.
